Everyone who opens one of my emails, reads one of my blog posts or watches one of my videos wants something.
So, let’s cut to the chase. Whether you’re a business person, employee, boss, spouse, parents, or just someone who wants to do good in the world, do these things…
1. HELP PEOPLE FEEL GOOD AROUND YOU.
Because the only way you can do th.at is by being in a good place yourself. And of course when they feel good around you they’ll do things to stay close.
And by the way, if someone feels good around you, chances are you’re the only person in their life who has that role. Many of them drink it in. Then they go out and become that person for other people. How cool is that?
2. BE DIRECT.
Ask for what you want. Take the mystery out of it. For example, I would really like more people to subscribe to my course and read my newsletters. So please…subscribe to BREAKING THE SEVEN BARRIERS TO YOUR SUCCESS. And click on the Facebook, Google + Tweet and Pinterest buttons above. Spread the love!
Do the same for your stuff. Take the guesswork out of it for people. You know what you want them to do. And they know that you know what you want them to do. And if you don’t know, figure it out. How can you expect people to do what you want them to do if YOU don’t know what you want them to do?
3.THINK LIKE OTHERS.
Most people you know are caught up in their own needs, their own fears, their own disappointments. If you are the person who can get out of their ego and genuinely think about others, you will be able to serve them. And they in turn will want to serve you. Compassion is strength. So is listening. So is praise without needing to receive it back.
And so is giving without needing to receive right away. True Story: People are afraid you’re going to want something from them. They think others have a hidden agenda. And that’s because most people do. If you’re the one who simply serves because it feels good to do so, you’ll earn trust and loyalty. And you know this because you’ve been in that place yourself.
4. DO THE DEAL.
Whatever you learn, implement it right away. You’ve got 48 to 72 hours to do the stuff you learn how to do. If you don’t do the deal, it’s gone. It’s as if it never happened. Of course you’ll always have another shot it at. But why wait? Conditions won’t ever be perfect to start. In fact it’s because things were off course that you want to make changes in the first place. Move in courage, my friend…and have fun with the imperfection!
There’s plenty more. But if you just did any one of these four things, your life would start to shift in some really big, really important, really fun ways.
This moment in time.
Not a lot.
The size of a small town.
Or the number of people who are at a professional hockey game on a weeknight.
Or 1/30th of one percent of the population of the U0nited States.
Or is it?
It’s the size of our organization in Rippln right now.
I suppose it depends on how you look at it.
Because 10, 431 people may not be a lot.
But when they’re EXCITED AND HAPPY…
And when they have the energy to go out and share something great…
And when they know they have a real chance at being on the cutting edge of the next wave of technology, commerce and ideas…
That’s a whole different ballgame.
Because as we’ve seen, 10,431 can multiply VERY quickly.
Our 10,431 started with one.
And soon became ten, and on and on.
That’s 10, 431 lives that are going to be touched.
10, 431 who are reaching out to others with something they feel good about.
10,431 who are making connections, making friends, building something profound.
By the way…I just took another look in our back office.
The number is now 10,443.
Wanna know what we’re doing?
Soon enough, everyone will know.
And you have a chance to look behind the velvet rope.
Email me: LarryHochman@SBCGlobal.net
Subject Line: INVITATION.
Make sure you include your first and last name.
I’ll send you an invitation.
And you can do what we do.
And you will start with one.
And maybe get to 10, 431…and beyond.
Did I mention 19 levels (Ripples) deep and 130 countries. There ya go! Email me for your invitation and LOCK YOURSELF IN!
Fourth and final video in the series of walking with you to pick up my daughter’s car from the repair shop.
If you want to destroy your credibility and ruin your business, blog about stuff you haven’t done or don’t know about.
I like when people tell me how to be Internet Marketing Rock stars, when they don’t have any downline at all.
The word is congruence. Being who you are, not who you want to position yourself to be.
Don’t confuse that with painting yourself in the best possible light, or sharing some success you’ve actually had.
But we can smell “El Toro Poo Poo” a mile away.
And I know many of these folks are well meaning, but when they tell me how to get organized or get inner peace, those often smell a little fishy too.
I don’t think they’re doing it to be dishonest. I think they were told that’s the way to position yourself for success.
Try this instead: blog about something you do know about, or how to do.
Blog about the journey you are taking. And always talk about your progress…not what you haven’t done yet.
And talk to and about people who are successful.
If you do that, you will become the leader you want to be.
I put that question out as a Facebook status this morning. The whole thing looked like this…
Q.: Do you want to be happy or rich?
It had to be done. Only because another friend put out the same question a few minutes earlier. Only he made it a real scenario….
“If you had to choose between romantic love with no possibility of financial wealth or financial wealth with no possibility of romantic love which one would you choose? And can you guess which one I would choose?”
That’s a direct quote. I won’t name him, and if he sees this…please accept my apologies. He’s a great guy, and it’s not my intention to pick on him.
But Jeez Louise! Why would you even introduce Happy Or Rich as a question?
It’s scarcity thinking at its worst.
Anyway, I put my status out there (after I responded to his with a bunch of the same thoughts I’m writing here). I put it out as simply as I could, because once you get too long or start sounding pompous, people tune out.
Most got it. A few actually chose one or the other, even after seeing the “answer” I included.
It just goes to show how pervasive and bone-ass wrong the whole happy or rich thing turns out to be.
So apologies if you already get it, but enough don’t so that I’m gonna go through it again.
Here goes…the process of receiving is the same for anything. You were put on this earth not to suffer, or to choose one good thing or another.
You were put here to see how much you can take in, how much you can expand.
And yes…you were put here to love and to serve others.
Another one of those things that people think are either/or choices.
Giving and receiving are always in perfect balance. For everything that is given, an equal amount has to be received. There’s no other way.
And the whole idea of sacrificing happiness in order to be rich is a thought form. Not a reality…not unless you choose to make it yours.
Where I grew up, people thought of “rich” as getting up at 4:00 am to jump on the train into New York City, working a full day, coming home around 7:00 or 7:30 pm, and not having any time for yourself or your family. But at least you had money.
OR…not jumping on that train, doing something else that didn’t pay well, but at least you had more time for other things. You were “happy.”
And of course that whole “either-or” shuts down an unlimited number of possibilities to achieve both. To live in a way that makes you feel truly alive.
And the whole self-denial = good person thing comes into play as well. “I’m depriving myself money and opportunity, so I must be a good person.”
No…you’re depriving yourself abundance, and your view of the world gets narrow. And you suffer from the arrogance of thinking your self-deprivation makes you somehow more spiritually superior.
Sidenote…I’m not saying the simple pleasures don’t make you rich. The photo above is of my meditation spot. I took a walk there this morning in a steady drizzle, smelled the morning spring air and felt thrilled to be alive.
I don’t think there’s anything that victimizes us more than our own “either-or” thinking. Especially when it comes to “Happy Or Rich.”
It’s all about changing the quality of the questions we ask ourselves.
Don’t be a dope and ask Would You Rather Be Happy Or Rich?
Don’t ask yourself that. Don’t ask other people that.
Try this on for size…
How Can I Be Happy And Rich?
And if you want to go wild, try these two…
How Can I Serve Others And Become Happy And Rich In The Process?
What Are The Old Thoughts, Feelings And Behaviors I’m Still Holding Onto That, If I Let Them Go I Could Be Both Happy And Rich?
Now we’re talking!!!
Be warned…if you click on the video above, you will see topless women.
And the other word that is one syllable and begins with the letter T.
Yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus.
And there are topless women in public who are in fact, according to the New York City Police Department, not breaking the law!
Now, there’s a bit of a chance I’m going to offend a small number of people who read NO MORE HOLDING BACK on a regular basis.
But if you’re into my stuff (which by the way, I appreciate very much), you’re probably not going to get bent out of shape about it.
So let’s start with the obvious….
Men like boobs. And we like topless women.
All men. Single men. Married men. Men who are still boys. Even gay men.
We all like ‘em.
Call it biological imperative. Or conditioned response.
Whatever. This video doesn’t feature anyone you’d consider a centerfold.
And yet it doesn’t matter. They’re topless women.
You can fight nature, or embrace it.
And the fact that the title of this post has the words topless women in it is going to boost the usual readership by at least three times.
So there ya go. Men love boobs. And come to think of it…many women do too.
They’re legal in New York City (The toplessness that is. As far as I know there isn’t anyplace where the actual boobs are illegal.)
And topless women are welcome in much of Europe.
And legal or not, I don’t think anyone stops topless women from Europe when they go to Miami.
But that’s not even really the point of this whole thing.
Here’s the point…everything we accept right now as the norm started out outside the mainstream.
There was a point when skirts higher than the ankle were considered sinful. In some parts of the world they still are.
Elvis Presley (who is adored by more than one friend of mine who is an Evangelical Christian) was considered to be so far off the chart, they had album burning parties for him back in the 1950′s.
Much of the dancing done today flips people out. As the parent of two teenagers, I can live without seeing the “twerking” that’s done all over the place. It makes me uncomfortable.
But that’s about me, and what I grew up with. Not with anything in and of itself.
Let’s face it…anything that’s genuinely dangerous, people will stop doing, only because enough of them will get hurt or killed that the word will spread.
I remember being in high school in the early 1980′s and seeing the rebellious males with an earring in their left ear. Nowadays that’s nothing.
I don’t do any kind of piercings or tattoos for two reasons. I’m not a big fan of pain and I don’t want something that’s going to droop along with my skin.
Three reasons…I like my body the way it is.
But I don’t find “wrongness” in it.
The ultimate standard is always going to be the same: if it doesn’t hurt yourself or someone else, it’s just a fad of the times.
And the ultimate success comes when you stop worrying about what “they” are doing.
(Yes, even the topless women.)
And you start putting your attention on being the best YOU you can possibly be.
Now…where are the rest of the topless women?