One Crazy Conversation


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Watch out for angry people at the gym.

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And for sure, don’t let anyone’s negative energy into your head, your heart, your body.

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Do what you gotta do to get away…even if it means going outside in the cold with just tee shirt and sweat pants!

Not In My Backyard

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There are a lot of things we have no control over.

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And there are things we do.
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So when people say rotten stuff on my wall, or even passive-aggressive stuff (which is mean stuff disguised to look like nice stuff),  I either zap it or call them on it.
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Same with Instagram. Bots are a particular “favorite.” I don’t like them. They depersonalize. I don’t use them.
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And from a marketing or promotion standpoint, I think less of someone who does.
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I watched Diane call out someone on a webinar for spewing negativity in a positive and optimistic environment. It was a sight to see!
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She kicked the trash out of her backyard.
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Things we have control over, we control.
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And things we have influence over, we influence.
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And things we have neither control nor influence, we let them slide.
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Psychologists call this “Locus Of Control.” 
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How much influence do you have over the different parts of your life?
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Are you sitting there, just accepting the crappy parts, when actually you DO have some control, or at least influence?
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And instead putting your time and energy into areas you won’t change, no matter what you do?
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And then trying to build a business, or a career?
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It won’t happen.
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As long as you’re allowing chaos into your backyard, you won’t get where you want to go.
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Yes, you have to play by the rules of the people who own the toys.
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It’s hard to market when you’re in “Facebook Jail.”
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But if you’re permitting people to get into your head with lack consciousness and not challenging it, you become part of the problem.
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And people are trying to solve their problems, not add more onto them.
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It’s time to stand up and say…
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Not In My Backyard.

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Go out and notice who is adding value to your life and who is leeching it from you.
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Embrace the value added peeps.
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Cut out the leeches.
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Then give yourself a checkup from the neck up.
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Go out and see what kind of value you are adding, or if you’re sucking the life force away from people.
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It’s not just “feel good” stuff.
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It’s the difference between a thriving career or business, and one that’s dead on arrival.
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YOUR TURN
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How much have you allowed negative influences into your backyard?
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How will you remove them?
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What have you done to bring value to those you want to influence?
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Comment below. Like, share and Tweet above. Someone is looking for your help to clean out their backyard.
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Your Competition

Who is your competition in MLM and affiliate marketing?

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I got an unexpected answer when I tried to chat with a woman at the gym.

Your Shoes

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People want to judge your success.

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And your failures.

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You want to judge other people’s success because it makes you feel better about your lack of it.
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“They must have succeeded because they got lucky. Or they’re ripping people off.

“Or they KNOW SOMEONE.”

And you want to judge other people’s failures for that same reason. Bringing a high achiever back to that pack makes you feel vindicated.

Please don’t be offended. I’ve done the same thing many times.

And I may not be talking about “you” at the moment. Right this minute I’m thinking of someone who was in enough pain to lash out very publicly and inappropriately at someone who did nothing wrong.

You want to judge your own failures.

Because even though failure sucks, it’s still something we’re used to. So it’s a comfort zone.

You want to judge your own successes.

Because most of us have a hard time accepting the responsibility that comes with higher expectations.

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You want to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes.

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And people want to walk a mile in yours.

Stop that.

Stay out of them.

Walk a mile in your shoes.

Get used to the idea that your shoes are good enough.

Holes in them. Laces untied.

But they’re yours.

And you can fix them.

Don’t judge other people. You don’t know what they’ve gone through. And they don’t know what you’ve gone through.

And don’t judge yourself.

Assess your progress. Figure out what you need to do, and what you need to stop doing.

Fix it.

And move on.

That is all.

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The reason I put know someone is caps and bold up top is because it’s true.

Who you know has a lot to do with the kind of success you have.

Your environment counts.

And you can upgrade your environment, when your confidence and consciousness calls out to the right people.

It’s a big part of what Diane’s doing in Twist Your List.

And it’s a big part of what I do in How To Receive.

Walk in your shoes.

They’re good enough to walk in.

He Tried To Steal From Me

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Diane and I spent the past few days at Mohegan Sun’s Winefest Weekend. And it was about as awesome as we hoped it would be.
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So it didn’t bother me that much that someone tried to steal from me.

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But it was important enough so that I want to share it with you.
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Here’s what happened….
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There were a bunch of different parts of the weekend. The Bourbon Tasting, The Celebrity Chef Dine Around. And the Winefest Exhibition on Saturday afternoon. That was the biggest one.
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On Saturday around noon I got my bracelet to get into the Exhibition and spent an hour or so. Diane and Jill had gone in before me, and left early.
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(Sidenote…it’s fun looking at several thousand drunk people all in one convention hall. Little dangerous, but fun.)
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I left the event to get upstairs to our hotel room and get a few things done before the Dine Around. At the elevator bank I was approached by a middle aged guy.
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“Excuse me. Did you just come from the Winefest?”
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I told him I did, figuring we were going to make small talk about how much fun it was.
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“Are you going back later?”
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I told him I wasn’t.
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“Then can I have your bracelet?”
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It was only then I realized what what happening. He wanted to get admission into the event without paying the hundred bucks it cost for it.
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I gave him a polite but firm no.
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He started to apologize and give some kind of explanation.
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Wasn’t interested. I turned and got into the elevator.
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No doubt there are some of us who are thinking I’m the bad guy here. I was done with the event, and it wouldn’t have hurt anyone to slip him my bracelet (which, by the way wouldn’t have worked. It was one of those tough paper things that break when you try to remove it).
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Not true.
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It would have hurt the Mohegan Sun. They are the ones who put the event together. They did all the work, the promotion to make it happen.
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They took all the risk in case something went wrong.
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As long as they’re playing fair, they’re supposed to maximize their profits.
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And it would have hurt the guy.
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This wasn’t a dude starving in the streets, trying to save himself or his family.
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This was a 40 something year old man trying to score a freebie to really good food and unlimited wine by accosting strangers.
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I don’t want to be a part of something that diminishes this guy’s dignity. If I’d given him my bracelet, I would have been part of his problem.
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And I’m way past the point of worrying about needing the approval of strangers, especially ones who are mooching off others.

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And yes, he tried to steal from me. We earned the right to our entrance. Hard work. Building our skills. Accepting the setbacks that went along with the success.
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If he walked down that road, it wasn’t showing that day.
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And here’s the part where it might be about you.
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If you were on the side of the would be stealer instead of the event, it’s a vote against prosperity and abundance.

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It’s saying you value the prize over the journey that made it happen.
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And of course, it’s a vote against honesty.
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You’re bigger than that…no matter what you’ve done and thought.
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Even if you’re still doing it and thinking it.
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Wanna succeed in places you’ve failed up to this point?
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Home business? Career? Relationships?
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Stop looking for shortcuts.

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Learn to enjoy the process, not just the outcome.
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Celebrate the folks who’ve already made it.
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Don’t resent them.
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Set aside fear and small thinking.
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Invest in your education and your growth.
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Be gracious with others who aren’t there yet.
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But don’t feed their greed.

 

YOUR TURN
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Have you found yourself on the right end of an attempt at dishonesty? The wrong end?
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What did you learn from it? How did it make you better at what’s important to you?
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Comment below. Like, share and Tweet above. Someone needs your example to live a better life.

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