Larry Hochman

Something happened the day of this video that caused disappointment.

Actually, a couple of things happened.

One was a struggle from my past that spilled over into the present.

One was something I found out that morning that made me feel not so good.

There will always be things that hurt. That take the wind out of your sails.

That cause anger, jealousy and resentment.

What you do with the energy of disappointment will decide everything else that happens to you.

In your business. In your career.

In your personal life. In your relationships. Even in your physical health.

The video above tells you to do two simple things…

1. Don’t pretend it’s not there. Get rid of the “happy thoughts” before you’re ready to have them. Go through the process of whatever you feel. Anger, despair, etc. You’ve earned all of it!

2. Find a way back to knowing you are strong, beautiful and brilliant. You are capable of learning and growing from whatever has happened.

And if you made a mistake, if you hurt someone, or yourself, it doesn’t change the fact that at your core you are still made of beautiful stuff. You are worthy and deserving of forgiveness…from whomever you hurt, and from yourself.

Just like you would forgive whoever hurt you.

Go out and do good stuff.

My lesson from the Apple Store: you don’t have to be anyone besides yourself in order to succeed.

When you see every kind of person in the world wearing those black Apple tee shirts, you realize there’s a place for everyone.

You also realize you will fit in, because someone in that store already looks like you.

You also know they know their stuff. Everyone is connected to the unlimited fountain of knowledge that is Apple’s database.

So when I went looking to see why my iPhone wouldn’t hold a charge, I knew the folks in the Apple Store would have the answer.

I wound up plunking down $84.00 for a new battery.

But I walked out feeling good. Not manipulated. Not with a salesperson up my butt, which is the experience I’m used to when I walk into a store.

And that’s the experience most of us give people when we approach them about buying our home business product or service.

Or when we approach people about joining our team.

What if you were so confident in your product or program that you felt like it sold itself?

What if you were so confident in yourself, you let people come to you?

And let them explain what they wanted, without you bothering them?

And give them their options, with what’s best for them, not you?

You would stand out from most of the other people in your space.

You would be safe.

People would walk away from you feeling better, not worse.

Energized and comfortable, not keeping their guard up.

Like I said in the video above, if you’re in a quality program, the important marketing stuff has already been done for you.

Let it do its job.

You do yours…

Be good.

Be approachable.

Be real.

Be yourself.

Make it safe for others to be themselves.

And watch the magic happen.

If you want home business success, don’t do this one thing.

The people who wind up reading this blog are those who are really interested in personal development.

And often people who are looking for a way to break through in their home business…or find a new one that works better than their old one.

The best ones go around and around trying to make sense out of all the failures.

Because let’s face it…

Most of the things people try in that space lead to disappointment.

So here’s what I don’t want you to do…

Pretend everything’s going great when it sucks.

Too much of that going on in the space.

And of course there’s a lot of people who cuss, yell, scream and leave after a really short time.

But they’re not here.

You are.

Too much “Happy, Clappy, We’re all OK, Just believe and everything will be fine bullsh-t”
in this space.

Yes, there’s a space for positive thinking.

But not based on a lie you tell yourself.

It’s gotta be based on truth.

The truth that you’ are smart, capable and resourceful…and unlimited.

And you’re frustrated because you haven’t figured out how to break through.

Pretending everything is OK when it isn’t will keep you trapped in failure.

Find the sweet spot of home business success.

Own your emotions.

Get clear that you really are bright, and beautiful and capable of anything.

Then notice the fact that you haven’t gotten there yet.

Appreciate the contrast.

Then dig in and do the work on yourself.

And get better at learning the techniques and methods of whatever your business is.

And accept that it comes in stages.

But realize that most people won’t do what you’re doing.

You’ll be a leader just because you dug in and did the deal.

The money will come.

And it’ll feel really good!

Of all the excuses you can use to avoid making money, flying home is no longer one of them.

I launched the No More Holding Back Affiliate Program recently, along with the other irons I’ve got in the fire.

And I did a fair amount of it away from my home laptop.

So yes, it wasn’t as convenient to get things done without the device that has all your codes and passwords already memorized.

Here’s the thing…

The activities involved in making money aren’t the nuts and bolts. Yes, you have to do those, or your have an unorganized jumble no one wants to go near.

Making money is about creating something value added…or putting yourself between something good and the people who want it.

It’s also about gathering enough momentum around what you’re doing so that people know what’s going on. They know it, and they know you, and they see the value in it.

And it’s about engaging people and building relationships so people want to buy what you’re selling, or at least make decisions that move them in that direction.

That can be done while waiting for a flight.

Or running toward your gate when you’re in danger of missing that flight.

Or enjoying a mediocre cup of coffee on the flight where they ran out of half and half and you’re drinking it black.

Or noticing someone’s really great service.

Or noticing how cool one of your online friends is, and letting the rest of the world know about it too.

If you’re not doing the things that help you move your business or career forward, it’s not about lack of time.

It’s about missed opportunities.

That’s fixable.

Keep your technology close by.

Find that balance of staying in the moment, so you have fun stuff to talk about while you’re living your life.

Be aware of what others are doing and what’s important to them, so your content, even in the airport can match their agenda.

“So Tell Me What You Want, What You Really Really Want”

Yes, I had that song in my head.

And yes, I’m not afraid to admit I liked it when the Spice Girls came out with it in the 1990’s.

It was rolling around because I asked a question on Facebook earlier that day…

Let’s try an experiment…what do you want? I mean what do you REALLY want?
Do you know the answer to that question? It’s OK if you don’t. If you do – and don’t mind sharing publicly – answer right here. Maybe you’ll inspire someone else…give them permission to figure out what they want.

The answers were pretty standard…

“Inner peace”

“My own house with a big yard for all my favorite flowers!”

“To travel and write from those travels.”

“Have my own place- that I know will be paid for.”

“Continued happiness and good health.”

“I want continued happiness, health and love.”

“I REALLY want to be able to stay home and help others/educate them and not have to work outside the home.”

“I want to help others on a deeper level than i currently am, and still have time to spend with my daughter. Flexible schedule is the key.”

“I want to grow more as a person and marry my beautiful Fiance from Philippines. With that comes a profitable business too because she is my inspiration.”

Good stuff, huh?

If I ask most people, “tell me what you want,” (without the Spice Girls), they really won’t know.

So three takeaways…

1. What you want is not the same as what people have been telling you what you should want.

2. What you want is not usually a thing. It’s a feeling. It’s a state of being. Once you figure out what that is, it’s easier to get at the “stuff” that will give you that.

3. It’s also something that changes over time. Once your sense of well being comes back, it’s easier to ask for more. Because you feel like you’re worth having it.