I finally got to meet the Mighty Bert Bledsoe the other night!
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Not to mention Angela Boswell. Justice Eagen was old hat, but it was still great to see him anyway.
All kinds of great experiences, which I’ll probably cover another time. But one stood out. And it has to do with that bubbly grape stuff. And I ain’t talkin’ soda!
It started with my ordering champagne from the lounge we were in. Bert was polite, but at the same time was a little aghast. He made it clear…champagne is something we use to celebrate. We do not drink it alone.
So… He got some too .
Now, I am not a wine drinker. I appreciate a good meal, probably more than the next guy. But the subtleties of alcoholic beverages weren’t ever really something I got into.
Bert was having none of that. He had me sniff the champagne. He had me close my eyes and tell him what I experienced.
So I told him… Rain.
That was about the last thing he expected. He was looking for oak, and grapefruit. And stuff like that. Not rain.
But he went with it. He also inched closer to me, and for a guy I just met a few hours ago, the physical distance between us was a lot closer than one might expect.
He had me describe what I felt when the champagne hit the back of my tongue and my throat. I had to close my eyes and try and delete all the sensory input happening all around me. All the laughter, all the cologne and perfume, the chocolate dipped strawberries. And the previous beverages I had before. They were all mingling together.
I focuses as much as I could. Eventually I got some lemon notes. Hey, I’ve read Wine Spectator. I get it! Bert seemed to approve.
But on that second taste, with him standing sentinel over me I went back to my starting point: Rain.
He accepted it, and we toasted to whatever he toasted.
We had our bonding moment over that champagne, and many others including our drive to the airport the following morning. I pulled stories out of him that were priceless…and I won’t share here. You’ll have to earn your own Bert moments!
When you hold yourself apart…when you’re the king or queen on the hill who knows more than the other guy, a few people will come to you. They’ll want what you have.
But once they get it, they’re gone. And if they don’t get it, they’ll go away mad.
When you allow yourself to be vulnerable,…when you engage your senses, and let it all happen, people connect with you.
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That goes for marketing. And that goes for friendships. And that goes for anything else worth doing, having or being.
Cheers!
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Have you had your own experience with wine or champagne? Have you found your own personal Bert who brought you unexpected wisdom? Comment and share here. We would love to know!
There’s a light at the end of the deep, dark tunnel known as the winter of 2014.
And what better way to get ready for what comes next than the searing heat of some righteous TRUTH BOMBS???
Picked off from some of the coolest Facebook friends you’ll ever meet.
(Yeah, that’s an original Larry Hochman sketch. Obviously I’m more of a writer than a visual arts guy.)
A Marketing And Advertising Truth Bomb from Franco Gonzalez:
Throw enough money around and you can get someone to come over. But if you throw money around to get them, you’ll have to throw money around to keep them. If you don’t someone else will.
Is that how you want to build your business? Me neither.
When you fall in love with what you do, there is no need for forced perseverance and commitment!
You will do “the do” because you LOVE what you do.
You become the inspiration for yourself and others.
Tap into your deepest desires and passions – what is it that really turns you on – that thing that you would do all day every day?
When you find this spot in yourself, everything else falls in place.
Become the inspiration for others. You contain it – now share it.
A Change Your Environment from Kim Klaver:
How to find some rich and powerful new friends…
If you REALLY want to earn obscene income they say, you need to hang out with people who are earning obscene income. Not those who can’t scrape up $100.
Agreed?
“But,” you protest, “I don’t have any successful friend I can talk to anytime I want!”
Here are two ways to get almost any super successful person to whisper their secrets right into your ear. Starting tonight.
And. These successful people will NEVER get impatient – even if you ask them to tell you the SAME secrets and principles again and again and again. And again.
Do this:
1. Pick your heroes.
2. Go to the library. Or to Amazon.com.
3. Look them up.
4. Get their advice. (Called a book.) Or let them whisper in your ear (now we say CDs or MP3 audios). Hear their words over and over (I’ve had Napoleon Hill’s blue cassette audios for some 25 years, STILL love to hear him tell me secrets in the night…)
5. Search out any successful person in any field you’re interested in. Most ALL of them have written their best advice down or recorded it for posterity or others on the planet during their time. Others seeking their advice on becoming successful. That’s YOU and ME.
6. Get their stuff in your hands, on your device or the real book to curl up with.
7. Listen or read privately – and completely alone – with your new personal mentor, EACH DAY.
8. Make that time the most sacred of your day. That means, it’s your #1 Priority. Not the last thing you think of, late at night, when you’re too tired to process it.
=> Here’s how to prioritize the time with your new friends.
1. Pretend that for 60 days, anyone you choose will come to visit you and sit with you in your private place.
2. Just the two of you.
3. Say you chose John D Rockefeller, as I did the first time I did this years ago.
-If Mr. Rockefeller were to come visit you personally, would you set aside a special room in the house for the occasion?
- Would that room be specially prepared?
- Would you make sure EVERYONE in the house knew that you were NOT to be interrupted for ANYTHING during that hour? (Or you’d announce to everyone that you’d be gone with NO cell phone for the chosen special hour each day.)
Who’s ready to take on some new special, personal and successful friends this way?
If you do this for 60 days in a row, exactly AS IF THEY were visiting JUST you, I’m willing to bet my check against yours that you will be a TOTALLY transformed person after just 60 days.
Can you just imagine the experience each day? Looking forward to it, doing it, savoring each moment as you get their full attention and you give them yours?
Who’s got their personal mentor chosen for that first 60 days of private tutoring? Who’s got a special room they’re going to set up for just the two of you?
A Fast Path To Success Truth Bomb From Lee Collins:
The secret to success?
Be honest with yourself about what is working for you. Do more of that. And do less of everything else. Simple enough?
I am sick and tired of people from all sides of the spectrum using politics to satisfy whatever frustration, bloodlust, and personal inadequacy they’re experiencing…and spew hatred, intolerance, and vapid stupidity.
There are some serious structural problems with our American government…including an unsustainable debt and a revolving door of people who seem to forget whose interests they represent. It all sits right next to a system that builds roads, ensures a safe food and water supply, and maintains the most awesome military presence the world has ever seen…and has an orderly transition of power every 4 to 8 years.
If anyone thinks gleeful potshots at the person or party they hate contributes to the well being of the country, think about the division you’re sewing. What’s going to happen when (not if, but when) another terrorist attack happens? You are making it that much harder to unite as Americans when we need it most.
Please…debate, disagree, make your case. Point out what and who you don’t like…and why. We need that in a constitutional republic. Without it we become complacent and stale.
When you disrespect the offices and the individuals for the sake of whatever you think is more important than the process, you become part of the problem, not the solution.
If you are still drinking diet soda or utilizing artificial sweeteners, do know that the evidence is in & it is NOT GOOD.
I’ve been telling my patients this for years, but now the medical studies are backing the findings. The problems are multiple & the connection to the Metabolic Syndrome are frightening to say the least. It’s even more important now to read those labels and eat/drink “clean.”
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And finally, a Resiliency Truth Bomb from Dr. Rachna Jain:
Realize that if you aren’t going to break, the only thing you can do is bounce.
Like what you see? Which ones KA-BOOMED you the hardest? Comment below and let us know
I got a note from a great lady named Kara from Punched In The Head Productions, which I’d never heard of before a few days ago.
Looks like they’re the real deal!
Here’s what she invited me to post on No More Holding Back and communicate to you.
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Has someone offered you a proposition to do something that goes against your morals?
Have you been asked to do something that you know is morally wrong but would benefit you?
Are you tempted to do something that just doesn’t feel right? Do you have an opportunity that might make your life better but would leave you wracked with guilt for years after?
If you are stuck having to make a huge business, family, financial or relationship decision between two options and the moral path isn’t clear, we want to hear your story for a new TV series on a major cable network.
Please e-mail us a bit about your story at casting@punchedinthehead.com. All correspondence will remain private and treated with the highest level of sensitivity.
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Now, to be up front…I am not connected to this company in any way. So as good as they seem, I am not making any claims as to the authenticity of the show.
But…a Google search tells me they’re into some pretty good stuff!
I like the premise of the show they’re proposing.
Go ahead and email them if you like.
And…if you’re on the show, make sure you find a way to bring NO MORE HOLDING BACK into every conversation!
I don’t hate anything. In fact I think it’s a pretty damn good compliment when someone calls you a motivational speaker.
It’s also cool people when say they love listening to you, they start their mornings with you, they drive with your voice in their MP3 player. All good stuff.
So with that out-of-the-way let me just say this…
I am Not a Motivational Speaker.
Think about anyone you know who you would consider a “motivational speaker.” Then go check their bio or their website or their Facebook page. Chances are pretty darn good they do not call themselves the motivational speaker.
Now (and I am apologizing in advance to anyone who falls into this category) find someone who does label themselves a motivational speaker.
Get a quick read on what you think is the quality of their stuff. Decide if, assuming you stuck around long enough, you would be motivated. Look at their stuff and see how good a job you think they would do motivating other people.
Yeah… It’s like that.
There are two basic things going on. First generally speaking, (and this is where I apologize to anyone who gets offended) there is a lot of ego going on in someone who bills themselves as a motivational speaker. They may have some positive energy, but they are also seeking attention and recognition.
And they really want your approval. They want it more than your business or the money. Turns out it’s less about you and more about them. And that’s a recipe for motivational disaster.
Because that is the second point…
You will never motivate anyone.
Neither will I. Neither will Tony Robbins, Wayne Dyer, or any other speaker or trainer you’re thinking of.
And they never call themselves motivational speakers.
Motivation is internal. You will never get motivated by anything outside yourself.
Now, something or someone can reach into you from the outside and INSPIRE.
Someone can speak into you with such passion, such truth, such energy such power so whatever it is they do or say turns you on… That gets you get fired up.
Someone can tickle something inside you that fell asleep years ago.
Someone can stir your pain. They can bring out emotions of longing, despair, disappointment, recognition that you were living a lie, or a life your parents would be sad about.
Someone could speak or train… even juggle in a way that wakes you up, shows you what’s possible, and plops you down into the middle of their narrative.
Get it? They provide the inspiration. You provide the motivation.
Big difference. Game changing difference.
Want some inspiration? Want something that reminds you you really are and what you’re capable of becoming? Lots of good sources. Even some right here.
Want motivation? Close your eyes and start digging deep… Inside yourself.
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Was there a time you were INSPIRED by a trainer or speaker? Were you so fired up that you went home and acted on your own motivation? Please…comment and share!
Brian McDaniel is a great writer, awesome speaker (complete with Tennessee accent) and righteous business guy and dude.
He’s also working on a side project with me, and for reasons that have nothing to do with financial gain on my end (since we aren’t linked financially in any projects) I wanted to feature him here.
So dig in and enjoy a wise and powerful piece of writing from the Mighty Brian M…
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Making decisions out of faith rather than fear… a thought you may have never considered.
You make decisions on a daily basis. What to eat, what to wear, when to leave. You’re a decision making machine.
Some decisions you’ll consider more than others. Many times making a decision is difficult for you. Sometimes it doesn’t even register any more… you make the decision without even thinking about it at all.
All decisions though, are made out of faith or fear.
You may have heard this quote:
“Successful people make their decisions quickly and change their minds slowly. Failures make their decisions slowly and change their minds quickly.”
Andy Andrews
I share this quote as I believe it relates to the faith vs fear mindset. When do you make decisions quickly? When you know the outcome or when you trust it is the right one. You make it, believe it and stick to it.
When you make decisions slowly, it’s out of fear. There are too many “what if’s” lingering in your head, to many things that scare you if I may. Even if you do make the decision, you have no faith in it coming to pass, and often renege on your decision.
Do either of these often enough and you’ll be successful at everything you touch…
Or, you’ll be a failure in everything you pursue.
Making Decisions Out of Faith or Fear
Every decision is made with a certain belief! Be open and you’ll learn the secret to manifesting anything you desire.
This may sound like hog wash to you – you can decide in a minute!
Making Decisions Out Of Fear
When you make decisions out of fear, you set yourself up for failure. Chances are you don’t make them quickly. You find many what if’s, made up challenges, imaginative bad circumstances that deter you from making them.
Once you do make a decision, you make it out of doubt… and fear. You’ve sent negative energy into the universe since the day you were faced with the decision. When you do, reluctantly make it, you continue to sabotage it.
You persist on thinking you made a bad decision. You continue to doubt the decision and second guess it. You continue to know in your mind something bad is going to come from it.
Well guess what, you are absolutely right. The overseer of the universe will present to you the exact thing you had faith in.
I thought we were talking about fear… yes, we are.
But either way you look at it, when you believe negative things will come to pass, they certainly will.
Everyday before you make a decision you view it as possible or impossible. When you make a decision out of fear, you see it from an “it’s impossible” state of mind. You’ll fold as soon as the thing you had faith in (all the bad things that were to come) happens.
Making Decisions Out of Faith
Think about this for a minute. When you approach a decision looking at all the positive things that WILL happen you make it quickly. You make it without thought of the negative things that WILL happen.
You know the outcome is what you desire. You know you’re gonna have struggles getting there, but you know the end result will be worth it in the long run.
When making a decision out of faith, you know no matter what, you’ll have what you desire. You KNOW, even though you don’t know how it will all play out. You KNOW it’s the right decision.
You THINK it’s the right decision. You THINK you can do it. You THINK positive thoughts before the decision and during each action you take after the decision.
Understand we don’t always know to the point of being able to tell our friends and family the steps our decision will take to accomplish. Heck, we don’t even know ourselves… we just BELIEVE it’s all good baby.
Conclusion
How does all this relate.
Well, we can look at a whole slew of decisions knowing some are just plain “bad decisions” and some are naturally “good decisions”.
But what about the “tough decisions?”
You and I both make them. Maybe not weekly, but often. Most of these decisions need to be made out of necessity. Some out of need for change. These decisions are ones we must make.
I didn’t realize the difference between fear and faith in my younger years. Though I have had success many times in my life, I didn’t understand why in the beginning. Through exposure to mindset, other successful people, and many other things, It dawned on me!
When I made a decision believing it was possible in my mind, It always came to pass. When I made decisions out of fear, I got exactly what I thought I would… left with my undesired result… because of my “BAD DECISION”, or so I thought.
I realized it wasn’t the decision, but rather the mindset of the decision.
I’d been consciously making decisions out of positive belief, and strong faith since then and the results have followed rather quickly.
As a matter of fact I made a decision recently, and decided to make a video. Watch it and let’s put all this together shall we.
Any thing is possible, but your thoughts, and how you approach your decisions will determine what happens. You either believe it’s possible or you don’t.
You have the power to think your results into existence, but you must first believe it. You must first realize your thoughts currently are based on fear. Then you must have faith that the universe will give you what you desire.
Once you’ve made a decision believing that, you’ll feed your actions with more positive faithful thought and even though it’s not seen how… it will become.
My wife is done working in August of this year. How do I know? Because I’ve been picturing it in my mind for 2 years now, just recently made the decision, and now have faith it’s gonna be so!
Do I know how we’re gonna swing it? NOPE! But I know we will. I know it because I’m taking action and am focusing on the beneficial effects this decision will have on my life.
Will it be tough at times? Yes… it will be. But I’m not concerned with the struggles, I’m not even trying to think of them… because I don’t even know what they will be or if they will be. All I KNOW is that I’ve made my decision and I have 100% faith it will be.
The commander of the universe will give me what I know I desire, because I believe it!
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Dr. Bob Clarke
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Chad F.
Ohio
"I met Larry when he came to the Capital District to speak at a business seminar. Watching Larry Speak was mesmerizing and I was able to take so much away from his speech.I also hired Larry for one of his series of coaching and learned so much in the hours we spoke. He helped me set a great foundation for a game plan I set in motion. Larry is great to speak with, can put you in the right direction with grace and ease. I would hire him again without a split second of hesitation."
Christine Harvey Berry
New York
"I’ve coached with Larry before and always came away with something good that I could use. Last winter I hit a bad patch of doldrums — just couldn’t get out of my own way. I definitely needed a jump start and figured that Larry was the man to do it. I told Larry I needed someone to kick my a** - in a good way - and he has done a great job. As always. Thanks to Larry, I’m back on track physically, mentally, and emotionally, and I’m getting stuff done.
B.K.
Washington
"Larry’s influence has helped me embrace, acknowledge and appreciate whatever is going on in my life. I feel myself growing in confidence and stature as I rediscover the imaginative, reactive magnificent ME. I’m seeing life from a whole new perspective, loving this idea of playing BIG, right now it feels like an overarching radiance, beginning to notice far reaching ripple effects as I dance through life, creating a splash and inviting people to join in."
Emily P.
United Kingdom
"Larry has a gift for telling it like it is, has a real, down to earth approach to motivating people to jump not just ahead in their lives, but onto a whole new higher plane than ever thought possible."
Katherine A.
Maryland
"In a world where so many people are stuck in a metaphysical morass, Larry has a uniquely tender ability to reach out from the heart and touch your soul."
Richard C.
Massachusetts
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Timor P.
Israel
"Larry positively impacts my life in ways I am regularly surprised at, and am incredibly grateful for. He seems to have devoted his life to the enlightenment, freedom and liberation of ALL of us. A human being with such HUGE love and great intention is undeniable. He is simultaneously humble yet powerful. Wise yet playful and lighthearted. A great teacher, yet just one of us, learning as he goes. He inspires me to do and be all
those things, too. A person doesn’t have to have it ALL figured out to lead another up to their next level, they just need to have gone a little before them. We are all here to uplift and inspire each other, and Larry gets that. I would recommend him as a guide to anyone. If you feel drawn to him, GO with that."
Liz M.
California
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Virginia
I finally got to meet the Mighty Bert Bledsoe the other night! . Not to mention Angela Boswell. Justice Eagen was old hat, but it was still great to see him anyway. All kinds of great experiences, which I’ll probably cover another time. But one stood out. And it has to do with that bubbly […]
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I got a note from a great lady named Kara from Punched In The Head Productions, which I’d never heard of before a few days ago. Looks like they’re the real deal! Here’s what she invited me to post on No More Holding Back and communicate to you. . . . . . . *** […]
I don’t hate anything. In fact I think it’s a pretty damn good compliment when someone calls you a motivational speaker. It’s also cool people when say they love listening to you, they start their mornings with you, they drive with your voice in their MP3 player. All good stuff. So with that […]
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This was fun! I did a radio spot with Kristy-Lea Tritz a few days ago on her program at A Woman’s Voice! Empowerment Radio. I had the honor of being the first male guest. Kinda flattering, but as I told her, being a husband and father of two daughters who so far have […]
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Don’t swing at pitches outside the strike zone. Don’t swing at pitches outside the strike zone. Don’t swing at pitches outside the strike zone. I love baseball. Just for its own sake. It’s always been my favorite sport. But I also love it because of the great metaphors it carries. Here’s one of my favorites… […]
OK, not really unnatural. But there are parts of it that just don’t add up to this northeastern boy! See for yourself… The Fam. Those two young un’s are Bradley and Macy, the son and daughter of my cousin Elyse. She passed four years ago, and one of our visits was to her gravesite, […]
If you’re a serious fan of American comedy movies, you know who Harold Ramis was. No explanation necessary. If you’re a casual moviegoer, you know his work. He starred in Ghostbusters, Stripes, Groundhog Day, and As Good As It Gets, to name a few. As a writer or director he brought us National Lampoon’s Animal […]
Cheers!
Larry Hochman