In about an hour and 15 minutes from the time I’m typing this sentence, the third and final presidential debate will start.
The stakes for the country are very high, and keeping politics out of it (as much as possible), it’s one last chance for the candidates to show what they’re made of.
I’m not going to watch.
When we had Gary Vaynerchuk speak at our event last April in New Jersey he said one thing in particular I agreed with…
Whoever becomes president, I have no intention of letting determine the course of my business or my life. I control that.
That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t care. Whoever the next Commander In Chief is, they’ll be making decisions that affect my kids, and my eventual grandkids.
But the things that are important to me right now…Larry is responsible for those.
My business. My career. My relationships. My physical, emotional and spiritual well being.
And I choose to put my time there.
I’ll check out the debate “highlights” tomorrow at news sources I trust.
And this evening I’ll cultivate relationships, talk with clients and students, plan out the things that important to me.
Psychologists call it Locus Of Control.
The debate will happen, whether you watch it or not.
(Insert your name here) is responsible for your well being.
Not Hillary Clinton nor Donald Trump.
Watch if you like.
At every moment, decide where your time is best used for what’s important to you.
And if you don’t know what that is, go to a quiet place and figure that out.
If you like, I can help.
To Your Success And Happiness,
No more partially clothed solitaire for you!
My Facebook status from October 16, 2013…
Someone wrote some beautiful stuff. Then went back to playing solitaire in their underwear. They never gave their words meaning or life. And no one followed them.
Because the words might have been beautiful.
But when they aren’t backed up by PASSION or ACTION, they usually die where they are.
Abraham Lincoln gave the Gettysburg Address. 270 words changed the course of human history.
Because he had the courage to live them out. And the resources to make them real.
And he only got those resources because of everything that came before. Unknown lawyer in Illinois to President of the United States.
And of course most of us fall somewhere in between.
Lots of people putting out lots of words on Facebook, and Twitter and blogs, etc.
And lots of people reading and listening.
A few with the commitment and passion to do something with them.
To lead. To influence.
Whatever you’re saying, it’s probably already been said
Whatever you’re living…THAT’S where your influence is.
Three years ago.
Yes, I’ve taken some risks. Done some good stuff. Influenced a few people to more success and happiness.
And I’ve also “punked out” a few times along the way as well. Things I could have done, and didn’t.
Chances I didn’t take. Changes I didn’t make.
I’m no different than anybody else.
We’ve all done things we can look back on and say…
“I was proud of myself that day.”
Just like we can look back and say, “I wish I was brave enough to pull the trigger that day.”
Don’t sweat it.
Each day carries with it a night, where you can wash away what didn’t work and celebrate what did.
If you’re reading this now, you can put the solitaire down.
You can get dressed for success.
You can realize that there are very few things you can do that will actually kill you.
You can create your life so three years from now you can say, “I’m glad I was brave in 2016.”
What big, brave thing are you getting ready to do?
What game do you need to let go of in order to succeed?
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Wanna succeed? Get to the top of your game.
So here I am at “Happyland,” a.ka. The Mohegan Sun Resort. I’m huddled up with Diane and Julie. We’re having an absolute blast, but it’s also all business.
The two of them are doing their mastermind. At the end of a two hour session Diane gives me some really cool news…
With one phone call she could hook me up with pre-season tickets. Boston Celtics vs. Charlotte Hornets. Right here in the arena! Starts in less than an hour.
Awesome!! NBA preseason!!
I thought about it for two seconds. “Thanks, but no thanks.”
It’s not that I don’t love sports. I do.
And it’s not that not that I don’t love seeing people at the top of their game. I do.
But I’m much more interested in being at the top of MY game.
And I’m much more interested in getting the results of my efforts.
More business. More cash flow.
More lives to impact.
There comes a time when you cross over from being a fan of watching other people do it, to being a student, and a doer, and the architect of your own life.
You won’t get that from taking distractions when they’re offered to you, even really cool ones.
I’m gearing up to learn new skills, make new friends, influence new people.
What are you geared up to do?
Who do you want to be? A spectator or a force for good?
Ponder that, then make your move.
Get to the top of your game!
What have you been willing to sacrifice to get to the top of your game? What bad habits, distractions, insecurities have you been willing to let go of? What have you replaced them with?
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I put that juggling video on my Facebook timeline a few days ago, as well as my Instagram feed.
Sure, it was a bit of a brag. Not much, since there are many jugglers much more skilled than I am.
Still, I was using it as part of my morning meditation, and my flow in that moment was pretty good.
So one really good guy saw it and asked the magic question…
That’s awesome! How did you do that?
It’s tempting to tell him I’m a graduate of Ringling Brothers Clown College, or I went to Kiev and studied with the exclusive Russian circus troupe, or some other cool story.
But it’s really much simpler than that…
1. I saw someone else doing it.
2. I wanted it. I really wanted it.
3. I learned the right technique.
4. I practiced hours upon hours upon hours until it became part of me.
5. I expanded on the basics by studying what other people did, on videos and in books. I broke it down to manageable steps, then failed my way to success.
6. Most importantly (and this step really came first), I never allowed myself to think I wasn’t good enough or capable enough to learn.
I would walk away for a while whenever I got to that point, then came back to it with new energy.
Surprisingly, almost every time I came back after a rest, my skills were sharper than when I left.
I gave what I’d learned some time to settle into my consciousness.
So yeah…no big mysteries about how I did it.
Because it’s the same methods everyone uses with everything that’s important to them.
In fact, I broke down anything you want to learn into a five step process that let’s you have it…including juggling.
Figure out what you want…maybe even something that someone says, “how did you do that?”
Then take the journey.
And do it.
What do you know how to do that others look at and say, “How did you do that?”
What made you get to that place?
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A home business fantasy of success sounds like a lot of fun, doesn’t it?
Most people stay in that fantasy for their entire home business careers.
And they never, ever get out.
Truth: most people love the fantasy of success in their home business.
And I’m not even talking about millions and millions of dollars. That’s too far outside the realm of reality for most.
They just want to feel good, and important and have that show up in the form of money and followers.
And I’m not the marketing expert in the family, but the reality is it isn’t insanely hard to achieve that.
Warm market or cold market, a simple sustained effort in a quality program will give most people a positive cash flow and enough recognition to give them their fantasy.
So how come so few people are fulfilling that home business fantasy?
Because they’re afraid of actually stepping into it.
If you are successful, you have a responsibility to live that success.
You have a responsiblity to the habits, and values and commitments that go with that success.
You have to feel worthy of it.
You have to carry yourself in a way that people recognize your leadership and are drawn to your products or your business. They are drawn to you.
That’s too far a distance for most.
They love the idea of success in home business.
Enough to fantasize about it.
But when it comes time to do the things that bring the success, they run into the trap of a damaged sense of self-worth.
And they make lots of small, subconscious choices that stop their progress dead in its tracks.
And they start over…often with a new program. Or new lead generation system. Or even a new coach, thinking they’ve found the magic solution.
And the pattern repeats.
If you do nothing else in your home business building efforts…
Find a way to raise your sense of self.
See yourself fully in your success.
Not as a fantasy that’s fun to carry around, but too tough to navigate in real life.
But as who you are.
This is how I help people turn people’s home business fantasy into home business reality.