Larry Hochman

I asked people on Facebook who their favorite teacher was.

It was a fun question, because it brought back great memories for a lot of people. And they weren’t shy about telling everyone.

Take a look at some of the answers I got.

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My 5th grade teacher Ms. Eckman. She was tough and had high expectations. She had total control of the classroom and even though she wasn’t the nicest teacher when in her class, many of her former students came to appreciate how much she invested in us in our later years and visited her. It was then we realized just how much she loved us and how kind she was.

Mrs. Misehiemer She took time out with me when I didn’t understand and realized that I needed special help.

I loved Mr. Marola. I struggled so much with math and he took the time to help me.

Mrs Venturi, my sixth grade science teacher. She had my back from day one. She was my advocate, biggest supporter and friend. She was even at my wedding. The world lost a beautiful person when she passed away.

So so many, but Mrs. Ozga shaped my future for sure.

Mr. Bund was my favorite teacher. After some rough years in elementary school when I felt like an outcast, he made me feel smart, relevant and welcome. Thank you, sir!

Mrs. Luximon my teacher for Hinduism. She was very kind and I loved her technique of inclusion of each classmate. 20 years later and I still carry wonderful memories of my two years of schooling with her. There was also Mrs. Roy for French Literature. She was the only one who honoured and helped refine my analytical skills thereby developing my passion for languages and at a later stage the career I would embrace in Psychology … In that sense I must also make a special mention of my own father who was a Mathematics teacher that made the subject simply magical under his explanations.

I had a couple that believed in me, I’ve also had my fair share of ones that told me I would never amount to anything. It’s funny, as an adult, how certain things stick in your head, I distinctly remember the ones that meant a lot and those that tried to push me down.

Mrs. Hyde & Mr. Higgins. Both had really high expectations of me. Made me push myself to be a better student and woman!

Mrs. Owens, second grade teacher. She allowed me to take on projects that were appropriate for my level of capability. She was so encouraging and affirming. Would always hug me. I needed that emotional interaction. It meant the world to me. I wasn’t feeling so loved at that time in my life.

Mr Lysek. He was hard on us and wanted us to learn to want more from ourselves.

Mrs Yuhas my English teacher in 8th she told me “Your first thought is always your best” I have found that to be true.

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So who was your favorite teacher?

Coming soon: how knowing about your favorite teacher can help you get better at whatever is important to you now.

There are a few reasons why people hate coaches.

They charge too much. Or they don’t deliver what they say they will.

I think there is one main reason was why people hate coaches. And that’s too bad, because coaching can really be effective.

I was messaging with a friend who mentioned he had an “online coach” who said a possible reason for his lack of confidence was…

Elevated estrogen levels.

I asked if this coach was a doctor or had seen blood work that might show something that suggested a hormone imbalance. The answer: “No, but he’s really powerful and smart, like you.”

Sigh…

If you’re going to present yourself as a professional, you have to behave like one. It’s one thing to make mistakes as part of your regular practice. Everyone does that. It’s another to talk out of your ass about stuff you aren’t qualified to talk about.

This is why people hate “coaches.”

No standards.
No professionalism.
No accountability.

If you’re a coach, don’t pretend to know what you don’t know.

And don’t say things to people that move them away from trusting their own ability to fix their lives.

Your charge is to empower other people. Not to make people dependent on your help. And not to make yourself feel more important by having a cult following.

And by the way, I completely believe in counseling and coaching as a profession. I’ve been in both for all of the 21st century. When done right, coaching can help someone unravel the tough parts of their life and succeed in ways they never have before.

If you’re looking for a coach, find someone who knows how to listen.

Find someone who asks questions and doesn’t look for a “one size fits all” answer.

Find someone who doesn’t tell you they’ll magically fix all your problems.

Find someone who trusts in your ability to be successful, prosperous and independent.

Can you think of an embarrassing moment that helped you in the long run?

Well, this isn’t necessarily one of them.

A little, maybe. I learned when I should go to the bathroom, and what beverages to avoid before doing any public speaking.

Most people won’t give their business or career their full attention because they’re afraid of being laughed at or made fun of.

No one wants to be embarrassed.

So take a few minutes and let me tell you about my most embarrassing moment.

I survived it.

You can do whatever you want with your business…and your life.

I can help you stop worry about what other people are thinking. They’re gonna think stuff about you anyway, whether you succeed or not.

If you join a community of people who are moving in the same direction, taking risks, having fun with the success and the failures that come with it…

You’re gonna get where you want to go that much faster.

Sure, there will still be stuff to learn. Skills you have to get that you probably don’t have yet.

But the worry will mostly disappear.

If you wanna join ours, you’re invited.

I used to hear the phrase, “Eternal Patience brings eternal rewards.”

It was a familiar saying by my sponsor in my first network marketing company, who just happened to be my cousin, David.

And throughout the years I’ve taken on lessons in patience…including one from nature.

I walked past the sign that says “Wildlife Viewing Blind” many times. Today I decided to follow it.

After making the trek, I was rewarded with a view of a field, but no animal life to be seen. In another place and time, I would have just bolted and gone after the next attraction. This day I decided to stick around a while.

No, I didn’t get a look at any deer, or bears, or turkeys, or anything else that visits Sessions Woods Wildlife Management area in Burlington, Connecticut. But if I wanted to I could have stuck around longer.

It’s that way with your home business. If you want to experience success, it’s not enough to just race around from one thing to the other. Yes, there is stuff you have to do.

But you also have to allow the process to unfold.

Your prospects are going to do things in their time, not yours.

They’re going to sign up to your newsletter in their time.

They’re going to take your trial offer in their time.

They’re going to buy your monthly package in their time.

And they’re going to join your business organization in their time.

You can try and force the issue if you want.

Just like nature, you’ll scare away that which you’re trying to entice by being safe and letting things unfold on their own time.

Do the stuff. Go to the places. Have the right tools for the right job.

But have the patience and the emotional maturity to let things happen in their own time. The rewards will be profound.

Here’s my Airport Video. Hope you like!

I asked people in a recent Facebook question: “What’s Important To You?”

Here’s a sample of some of the answers…

* My Vacations And Trips
* My Kiddo And Time With My Loved Ones
* God, My Wife, My Kids, Beer (in that order)
* My Health
* God, My Family, and Having Free Time To Enjoy Them
* Family, Friends, Fortitude
* My Health, My Family, My Friends, Other People, My Country, Democrats.

All good and valid things. I thought “Democrats” was kinda funny. And for that person, no doubt very true.

So my question…

Is what you do every day in line with what is important to you?

Are you giving your time, your energy, your money to it?

Maybe you are.

If you’re like most people you aren’t.

And you’re trying to convince yourself you are.

It’s your life. You can do what you want.

You’ll know if what you want and what you’re doing line up, when you’re life starts making turns for the uncomfortable.

Then you decide if it’s worth growing into.

Or if you want to stay stale and stuck.

Tag…you’re it!