I wrote a piece that I intended to put out Saturday morning. It started with a woman who had unsubscribed from my newsletter and said some not very nice things on the way out the door. Happens from time to time. Short version: she accused me of being judgmental and a bully.
I disagreed. And I wrote an article in response to her note. And I was all set to put it out.
Then I sent it to one of my friends to get a reaction.
I got a joking response – “I don’t think I should go there.”
Well, that’s exactly where I wanted her to go. Otherwise I wouldn’t have asked for her opinion.
Took some teeth-pulling, but eventually I got my answer. Short version: the article was a disaster waiting to happen. Bury it in a deep hole and never let it see the light of day.
So I took another look. And I agreed. Just put down my shovel to write this instead.
It’s not about the other article. It’s about my friend.
And it’s about YOU.
The friend who finally came clean wants a strong, leveraged income she can work around her family. She’s not looking to get super rich from her efforts. Some extra money to keep up with expenses and have a little extra at the end of the month for fun would be just super.
She doesn’t want to be the superstar in front of a room of adoring fans. She likes her life the way it is and wants to find a way to keep it intact.
So she’s not looking to be a “Big Player.”
That really doesn’t matter. Here’s THE THING I want you to understand…
If you’re going to do anything to improve your lifestyle – make money in a business, advance your career, lose weight, gain weight, get healthier, get a sweetheart, fix a broken relationship, etc. – you don’t necessarily have to be a big player.
But you have to PLAY BIG.
I asked my friend to look at that article because I had my own doubts. This is someone whose opinion I respect. I made that clear.
But she was still shy about asserting herself…about expressing the source energy inside that told her she was right…and felt strongly about.
(I know she felt strongly, because the one sentence response I asked for turned into ten paragraphs.)
It’s not about how big you want to be.
It’s how true to yourself you want to be.
That’s what the Universe responds to. It’s what people around you respond to.
It’s how you free up your own energy to go out and get whatever you want.
Got something in your life you KNOW isn’t right? Are you permitting it?
You don’t get to complain about what you permit.
And you don’t get to have success until you unfold all that you are.
Once you do, you get to have as much or as little as you’d like.
Thank you, my friend, for your wise counsel. I learned and grew from it.
Thank you MORE for sharing your authentic, congruent Divine self.
NOW…how are YOU going to free up the inner genius inside?
Have A Magnificent Weekend,
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From a one hour talk.
Four years later.
He might not ever have been exposed to the word paradigm before. Or he might have read or heard it hundreds of times.
Because that day Larry Hochman said it to him.
With Larry Hochman’s brand of energy, enthusiasm, authenticity and gravitas.
(Another great word…gravitas. Look it up if you don’t know what it means.)
That’s not ego. It could just as easily haven been (insert your name here)’s energy, etc.
If you’ve got that energy to give.
We all have it. It’s a question of how much access you’ve permitted yourself.
Think what you do and say doesn’t make a difference?
It doesn’t, if you walk with the energy and paradigm of a small person.
If DOES, if you walk with the energy of a beneficent King or Queen.
That young man was exposed to the word before. I’m sure of it.
But that day he HEARD it.
It’s how you carry yourself….who you permit yourself to be…
As evidenced by the language you choose. The posture you choose.
What your paradigm of self permits.
it’s how Little people become Big.
It’s how Big people get recognized (especially in today’s world with social media).