Do you consider yourself “weird?”

That’s the question I asked my Facebook friends a week or so ago.

I had a feeling I knew what the answer would be before I asked it.

And I was right.

Rather than go through every answer, I’ll just tell you that of the 66 responses I got, 51 of them were some version of, “yes, I am weird.”

Here are some of the more interesting versions of, “no, I’m not.”

Normal is just the mean of weird.

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Weird is subjective. What I think is weird may be your normal. As long as you accept and love yourself, be as weird or as normal as you want.

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Weird or wired differently. Same letters with a similar meaning but one is often more accepted that the other.

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Nope. Weird has a connotation that doesn’t resonate with me as as label. I’m against the grain. I dance to my own beat. I don’t care if I fit in… But oddly I love thinking of my friends endearingly as weird. I guess I have a double standard on that for self and others.

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No, I don’t. I AM an ORIGINAL. The majority of people are not. So they may think I’m weird and they may also be jealous. I wouldn’t want to be like the majority of people.

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No… weird might infer something is not okay. I am very okay; I simply follow my inner drummer, and no two drums sound alike so weird is quite normal based who each of us is as an individual. Makes sense to me, maybe not to others… Call me weird.

I like these. A lot.

I don’t think I’m weird. I follow my own logic, which is sometimes out of sync with how most people think.

And sometimes that thoughts and actions that come from it look unusual to most people.

But I don’t take pride in being “weird.”

I like to be predictable most of the time. It makes people feel safe around me, even if they’re going to see and hear things they don’t necessarily understand or agree with.

For someone who asks other people to trust them, and to invest money with their products or services, that’s important.

And if you’re a businessperson, it’s important to understand that.

You can be different from most other people, if that’s true to your beliefs and values.

But to take pleasure in being weird….

Thanks, but no thanks.

I’d rather follow the laws of the Universe as I understand them.

And leave myself open for change, growth and improvement.

And I don’t need to carve out my place in the world with being “weird.”

I’ll leave that to the real weirdos!

Do you need to be fearless to succeed in your home business?

In network marketing, or affiliate marketing?

In corporate sales?

Imagine doing things that will make you successful without fear?

Now, imagine if you didn’t worry about whether or not you were fearless.

Imagine if you made fear your friend.

What will happen when you let yourself out of the box of having to get everything right.

Yeah, it’s pretty cool.

Watch all twenty minutes of this. It’s worth your time, especially if you’ve been paralyzed by fear.

Yeah, that title is a bit misleading. Getting anything done in 20 minutes is pretty tough.

Or is it?

The video above is “Do You Need A Coach To Succeed In Network Marketing?”

I don’t really answer that question until the second half of the video.

If you want to watch the whole video, go for it! I think it’s worth your time.

But here’s the main point…

20 minutes may not be enough to make something life changing happen.

But if you live with focus and intention, you’ll attract opportunities to you that those with less focus don’t get.

And if you want to break through, and that includes success in network marketing, you can keep learning as you go.

And the right people will show up to coach you.

They’ll listen.

You’ll implement.

You’ll grow.

You’ll make some money.

Other people will get interested in your story, including the leaders.

And in 20 minutes – or less – someone could flip your entire life around.

Someone else will look at it and think it was just a lucky 20 minutes.

They won’t see everything that came before it that created all that success.

That’s OK. They aren’t supposed to see it.

You do.

Watch the video. All 20 minutes.

A Facebook friend named Val Neighbors asked a good question the other day: why would a coach would demean their clients.

I said…

That takes a multifaceted answer. If a “coach” is acting with professionalism, he/she won’t demean them. But there isn’t much of a professional standard in coaching…the term is too nebulous. Besides, the role of coach is different depending on who you ask.

But if you ask why anyone in a helping capacity would demean someone else, the answer is always because they’re either not aware of what they’re doing (insufficient skill) or their ego won’t allow someone else to surpass them. As a coach/counselor, my goal is for people to see their best selves and step into them…to be able to function independently in the world.

Of course I tossed that up on my wall. And I got some great comments in return. Here’s a sample…

Why would anyone in any capacity demean anyone??? We are all created equally and shouldn’t make anyone feel as if they are less of a person. It is worse if the person doing the demeaning is in a coach capacity but at the same time we all should be aware of how we are treating anyone. You should always treat everyone with respect or treat them as you would want to be treated.

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When you are operating from a capacity to help you want them to see their best selves. Now some folk are merely trying to manipulate others into thinking they need their services and that is where I see them demeaning people.

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When a person is demeaning someone else or putting them down in anyway, they are showing their own insecurities. And the world knows it. Are they not embarrassed? Or are they too oblivious?

Here’s The Truth…

A big part of what coaches do when they ‘demean” people is when they confuse tough love with personal insults.

I don’t see any problem with showing people how great, whole and deserving they are…then contrasting that with how they’re living with such scarcity or making such poor decisions. Demeaning someone would be to put a limit on their potential based on the coach’s perception. When someone diminishes you without showing you what’s possible, get away from them ASAP!

What do you think?

Your rewards are yours and yours alone.

Unless you decide to give them to someone else.

Here’s a recent Facebook Livestream after a high school awards ceremony. It’s a great introduction to how to keep the fruits of your labor, and be on the lookout for the ones that others left behind.

And here are three key takeaways on how to get the rewards of whatever it is you’re looking to do…

1. Get the skills that will help you get what you want.

2. Ask for the rewards.

3. Expect them.

The other stuff is important.

But it comes with time.

It’s good to be good.

It’s really good to position yourself to get the good stuff that comes along with being good.

Be ready.

And if you would like some help…