Photograph by Andrew Gray
When you get to the point where you’re calling people “Eye Candy” you’ve either gone off the deep end, or you’re prepared for wild success and happiness.
Yesterday I sent out a note to my subscribers. It pointed them back to The Freedom To Be Happy, which I put out April, 2014. By all means, read it! It’s about letting yourself be free from worrying about what other people think of you.
Because when you do, you discover ways to make more money, lose more weight, and ya know…be happier!
That’s the kind of energy I carry around most days, including today when a friend of mine, who’s a very attractive woman put up a new Facebook profile picture of herself.
Total eye candy.
And I told her so, publicly.
Not, “golly gee, I think you’re purty.” (face turning red)
I said, “Thanks for being eye candy.”
Now this lady is the kind of person who doesn’t have a problem accepting a compliment. She owns her good looks, along with humility and graciousness. She likes hearing good things said about herself.
Most people don’t feel that way. They see themselves as average, ordinary, or worse.
As not being worthy of financial abundance, or weight loss, or being seen as the Hottie McHottie that’s inside them.
And even though they make moves toward success, they don’t step on the gas all the way. So they slow themselves down, or even sabotage their success.
That’s most of us. That was me for many years. And in some instances that’s still all of us. We’re all works in progress.
So sometimes it’s uncomfortable to step out of our usual roles. To take someone who we thought was totally unapproachable, and (respectfully) tell them they’re eye candy.
And for many, it’s just as uncomfortable to hear it!
Just for a second, I want you to imagine yourself having the confidence and playfulness to tell someone they’re eye candy.
And I want you to imagine that person doesn’t necessarily see that in themselves…but you see it.
What kind of reaction do you think you’ll get?
It’ll often be a denial. “Nahhh…I’m ugly!”
Or a polite “thank you,” but they don’t really buy into it.
Sometimes they hear they’re eye candy, and something else happens.
A spark gets lit. They remember who they are, or at least were.
Someone else’s validation invites them to step back into their own confidence.
And they start carrying themselves differently.
They walk taller. They smile. Their eye contact with others lingers just a little longer.
And they become eye candy!
How would you like to be that person?
Yeah, you can dish out the compliments.
But for it to be real, you have to see yourself as eye candy.
And that has nothing to do with what you look like, how much you weigh, how old you are, etc.
That has everything to do with how valuable, loving and loved you see yourself.
And when you do, your outside circumstances start to match your inside condition.
Then you get to tell hotties that they’re eye candy.
And many of them get to believe it.
And you become very attractive to other people, who want to hang out with you.
And maybe buy from you and join you in new adventures.
Try it! See how it goes!
When was the last time you gave someone a compliment, and it rocked their world?
When was the last time you received one, and it rocked yours?
Comment below. Like, share and tweet above. Someone is waiting to be your eye candy!