Read this if you’re in a business or career where you have to deal with difficult people from time to time.
Read it if you’re a husband, or wife, or parent.
Read this if you’re trying to lose weight…for real! Because part of that process – believe it or not – is getting better at dealing with the crazy people in your life!
Read this if you live on Planet Earth. Because we all deal with difficult people, and most of us want to get better at it.
Someone asked me how I deal with counseling and coaching difficult people…the “bad people.”
It has to do with something I call, “The Sweet Spot.”
First of all there are no bad people. There are people who do some pretty bad things, but that’s always out of ignorance, or misinformation, or often anger or hurt.
I don’t know anyone who gets up in the morning and says, “Hey, I’ll think I’ll be bad today.”
Everyone I’ve ever met wants to believe they’re doing the right thing, even as they talk themselves into accepting some pretty bad choices.
So I answered his question. Find the place where they feel good. Where they’re in their zone. Where they feel competent and important. No need to dive right into their vulnerability…even if that’s the first place they lead you to.
Once you find someone’s Sweet Spot, they start to believe there’s something better than they’ve been living. They start to become your partner in healing, in striving, in achieving.
In letting go of dumb ass patterns that are beneath them.
Everyone has a Sweet Spot. Some may choose to never find it.
And it’s not my responsibility to fight them tooth and nail to get at it.
And it’s not your job to allow difficult people to complicate your life. If someone is acting like a jackass, no matter how miraculous their inner being is,…cut them loose.
But for those who want more and are willing to see themselves bigger than they’ve been living, it’s a great starting point.
One of my newer coaching clients had a revelation…
She doesn’t have to allow difficult people to take over her life.
And in her case, she turned some of the more difficult people in her life into allies.
People who say good stuff about her. And some even pay her!
And something strange happened…
She got healthier. Physically, emotionally, spiritually.
If you want some up close and personal work with me about making that happen, hit up my Coaching Page. Plenty of options for working together.
If you want to get your weight under control, your health back and do it in a way that makes every part of your life better, you NEED to check out The T3 Method.
And join the people who are breaking through.
Have you found someone’s “Sweet Spot” and turned them from a difficult person to a friend and ally?
Have you tried and just given up?
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