“So Tell Me What You Want, What You Really Really Want”
Yes, I had that song in my head.
And yes, I’m not afraid to admit I liked it when the Spice Girls came out with it in the 1990’s.
It was rolling around because I asked a question on Facebook earlier that day…
Let’s try an experiment…what do you want? I mean what do you REALLY want?
Do you know the answer to that question? It’s OK if you don’t. If you do – and don’t mind sharing publicly – answer right here. Maybe you’ll inspire someone else…give them permission to figure out what they want.
The answers were pretty standard…
“My own house with a big yard for all my favorite flowers!”
“To travel and write from those travels.”
“Have my own place- that I know will be paid for.”
“Continued happiness and good health.”
“I want continued happiness, health and love.”
“I REALLY want to be able to stay home and help others/educate them and not have to work outside the home.”
“I want to help others on a deeper level than i currently am, and still have time to spend with my daughter. Flexible schedule is the key.”
“I want to grow more as a person and marry my beautiful Fiance from Philippines. With that comes a profitable business too because she is my inspiration.”
Good stuff, huh?
If I ask most people, “tell me what you want,” (without the Spice Girls), they really won’t know.
So three takeaways…
1. What you want is not the same as what people have been telling you what you should want.
2. What you want is not usually a thing. It’s a feeling. It’s a state of being. Once you figure out what that is, it’s easier to get at the “stuff” that will give you that.
3. It’s also something that changes over time. Once your sense of well being comes back, it’s easier to ask for more. Because you feel like you’re worth having it.