This is a recent status of a Facebook friend…
Sometimes the rules need updating…
As this election season has gone on it has been fun sparring with some of my friends over politics. However, over the last few days, this sparring has reached a level of hatred, name calling and bigotry that is absolutely shocking.
Some of my real life friends have hopped on this bandwagon, but primarily my wall has been trolled by non-friends.
Friends and non-friends have been so harsh on my wall that I have decided to changed the rules:
My wall will longer be a place for anyone to spew their hatred. If you support Trump, that’s fine.
If you want to debate me, fine, keep it civil.
If you are hateful, bigoted, or attack someone for their race, gender, religion, political leaning or just because you can’t formulate an argument, I will unfriend you and block you.
There are a handful of people (you know who you are) that I have known in the real world for pretty much my entire life and who matter to me as people, even if we disagree about politics.
Please don’t respond to my posts with personal attacks. Please don’t call my bluff. I’m not bluffing.
I unfriended someone yesterday who I have known in real life for 40 years. That sucked, because I believed we were friends, but evidently they didn’t see it that way. If I have to, I will do it again.
I’ll make you a deal, as hard as it might be, just stop responding to my political posts unless you’re wanting to make a real policy argument. In return, I promise that I will never comment on anything you post. For the most part that’s already true.
That’s it, take it however you like.
The comments were mostly respectful. About ten down, I added this…
I have an acutely preferred candidate in the presidential election, as well as many down ballot candidates I support. My saying who they are has about zero chance of influencing others to make a change in how they vote, and insulting the other only makes people dig in their heels on their preferred person.
Many of us are in the home business space, and the logic is no different. If the goal is to win hearts and minds, you need to NOT start with saying how good your stuff is and how bad everyone else’s is. That just makes you look insecure and unprofessional. People I admire and respect support candidates I do not, and I’d like them in my life when the election is over.
So rather than attack anyone, I strive to understand why they want the other person to win. I listen to their reasoning, their desires, their fears and their triggers. Then if I choose to make an argument for my candidate(s) I can personalize my argument to their thought process. That’s what makes things work…careers, relationships, and yes…politics.
Most people in the home business space jump up and down and yell about how their company is the best. Their products are the best. Their marketing plan is the best. Their leadership is the best.
It’s what they’re taught to do. At the company events. And the webinars. And the home meetings.
All that stuff about being the best might be true. But your prospects don’t care.
The companies love it. It keeps their base fired up. It keeps product volume moving.
It just doesn’t necessarily bring in new guys.
And yes, it’s the same thing in politics and elections.
You can yell about how good your candidate is and how stupid or bad the other person is. And that will fire up the people who are already voting for him or her.
But elections aren’t won and lost with the base. They’re won and lost with the undecided people.
Home business fortunes aren’t made by feeding the people who already love what you’ve got…unless you already have several thousand of them.
And they won’t stick around if they aren’t getting new people as customers and team members.
Home business, just like politics is figuring out what people’s problems are, then positioning yourself as the solution.
You can feel free to be one of the screamers. It’s kind of fun for a little while.
But the people with influence, and money (home business and politics) are listening, and watching.
That doesn’t happen by chanting the company line all the time.
At the end of it all, the prospects – political and business – are looking for the safe place to park…their business or their vote.
It’s what I’ve been talking and writing about for 16 years.
You can be one of the masses and get what the masses get.
Or you can be one of the leaders, the problem solvers, the go-to people. In politics and in business, those are the ones who win.