In four days we will experience a loss.
And it’s a gain at the same time.
Our daughter, Sarah leaves for Australia on Tuesday. She’ll be there for a year, working studying and seeing the world.
And of course it’s made easier by the fact we will Skype, and FaceTime and email, and do all the other things technology has gifted us with.
And knowing that after 19 years she’s stepping out on her own, and she’ll return a fully grown woman, makes us very happy.
And when you consider other mothers and fathers lose their children to military deployment, where it’s an entirely different life experience, I have zero to complain about.
Still, it’s a loss. I don’t get to walk past her room and hear her breathing. (She keeps the door shut.)
I don’t get to listen to her singing in the kitchen while I’m trying to write, or shoot a video.
I don’t get to touch or smell my little girl, who stopped being a little girl years ago.
Every parent gets this. Almost all kids leave home…sometimes to the other side of the world.
Doesn’t mean it isn’t loss. But we get over it.
Because that’s the way it’s supposed to be.
Kids are supposed to leave home to make their own way.
Parents are supposed to grieve the loss…
Then celebrate having gotten another one out of the nest.
And start the next phase, a little lighter than before.
I bless the fact we have two healthy adult daughters who are making their own out of the nest. Many parents aren’t as lucky.
OK, let’s talk about you.
Loss is a part of life. The big ones, the small ones, everything in between.
Heartache is gonna happen.
And trying to build a life around avoiding it is a fool’s errand.
True for relationships. True for families.
True for health and wellness.
And true for our careers and businesses.
Many of the folks who read and watch me are home business builders in one form or another.
And a bunch of folks are learning to step out and move past the blocks that hold them back now. They’re in the MIND INTENSIVE with me this summer.
They’re big, brave dogs, as I like to call them.
And just like the rest of us, they’ve experienced all different kinds of loss.
Financial loss. Embarrassment. Ridicule from people in their lives over what they’re doing.
And like everyone else, it’s held them back to some degree.
Not like everyone else, they’re facing it head on.
They’re looking their loss in the eye.
And figuring out they are stronger than it is.
And yes, we’re using some techniques I’ve practiced over a long counseling and coaching career.
And we’re tweaking and fine tuning as we go along.
But they’re doing it.
And suddenly, the loss doesn’t seem so bad.
In fact, it seems natural, even welcome.
Because the big, brave dogs who don’t get paralyzed by their losses…who learn and grow from it…
They become the leaders. They make the most money.
They have the most fun.
They give the most, love, compassion and support.
And when they experience loss again (and they will), they have better skills to deal with it.
HOW TO RECEIVE is available right now, at a pretty reasonable price.
MIND INTENSIVE will be available to the public this fall.
And I am looking for people who are ready to stop being victims of loss.
And grow into a pinnacle leader and achiever.
In fact I’m gathering up a crew right now for a special Fall Focus Intensive.
It’s going to be very limited..just a few people I can pour into, and who are ready to receive it.
Home business builders are especially welcome.
But athletes, career changers, people seeking new or better relationships… this is for you too.
No details yet.
But if you want to be among the first to know when it comes out, drop me a note at LarryHochman@SBCGlobal.net.
Subject Line: Fall Focus Intensive
I’m going to go spend the last few hours with Sarah. I’m going to grab a few hugs while they’re available.
Go out and do something wonderful.
P.S.: I get there are wounds that are so deep, it seems like we’ll never recover.
And no, I don’t have every answer.
I only know that the best way to honor the past is to make the present as strong, loving, and life affirming as you can.
And build a magnificent future while you’re at it.
Let me know if you’d like my help with that.