How Not To Give A *#%! About What Anyone Else Thinks Of You…

What I really should have called HOW TO RECEIVE.

No, not really. In the first place, I rarely swear.

In the second place, it’s only a small part of the way to get more good stuff in your life.

But it is a part of it.

It’s what holds people back from taking risks.

It’s what holds people back from facing their fears and smashing through them.

Because for many of us, our biggest fear is the disapproval of other people.

It’s why the Number One fear out there is public speaking…

We don’t want to be laughed at.

I get it. I don’t enjoy being laughed at either.

Then again, I really don’t worry about it.

I am secure in my own skin…and in my own sense of worthiness.

It’s what allows me to take risks.

It’s what allows me to get in people’s faces and say what they need to hear.

It’s what lets me give them the tough but unconditional love they really need.

It’s what lets me tell them to give me their money in exchange for something good that I have.

And it lets me have a hell of a good time!

Check out this video for an example. The guy holding the camera was maybe the worst waiter I ever had at a restaurant.

I had the cajones to say it about him while he was videotaping me say it.

Not bad for a guy who grew up desperately wanting to be liked…and willing to sell his soul to make it happen.

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So short version…

The way not to give a *#%! about what other people think of you is to feel REALLY good about yourself.

And having that high self esteem is a great start.

And having the good stuff in life – the love, the money, the hot bod and laughing face – is an expression of that self-esteem, plus some really good habits.

I boiled it down to a science.

Step by step.

Twenty years of counseling and coaching experience.

Lots of mistakes.

And lots of successes.

HOW TO RECEIVE.

Come play!

Your Pal,
Larry

And here’s a secret…

When you stop giving a *#%! about what other people think of you…

Weak people will run away.

And you will become VERY attractive to strong, rich, powerful, sexy, happy people.

And you’ll start living like they live.

And you’ll start getting the things they have.

It’s Step Three in the process of HOW TO RECEIVE.

It’s how one of my students became a multimillionaire.

And how a bunch of them got rid of energy vampires and replaced them with best friends, lovers and great partners of all kinds.

Still think you’re gonna sit in that little space of worrying about what other people think, and break through to what you want?

You know better.

Step up.

Value YOUR opinion of you.

Put away the need for approval from anyone else.

Receive, Baby!!!

December 18, 2011 · Filed Under Uncategorized

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Confidence…It’s Everything!

So I’m talking with Karen, a lady I’ve known for about 15 years. Of all things, we get onto the topic of juggling.

She and another guy who had joined the conversation were interested in why I had learned in the first place.

After all, it’s not something that’s in the mainstream.

So I told them the truth…

I learned when I was twenty years old and had zero self-confidence.

A guy I knew, who was confident and popular was doing it. My twenty year old brain made the connection…

“If I could learn to juggle, I will be popular and confident like Stu.”

So Stu taught me. I ran with it, and developed it into the training and development program I use to this day.

And of course I wrote a book about what happens when people find ways to discover their own playfulness and confidence that same way.

I told Karen the story, and the reply was interesting…

“Larry, I can’t picture you without confidence.”

Now I’ve gotten used to the idea of being confident. For the past seven years or so I’ve become one of the most self-confident people I know.

It’s a great feeling, knowing the force of your personality is something that gets people’s attention.

And it’s even better knowing I use that personal confidence to make a positive difference in the world around me.

It is different from how I grew up! If I ever needed more proof of that, it came from a high school girlfriend.

We connected on Facebook a few months ago. She told me she was amazed at how powerful and self-confident I seemed to be.

Again, fun to read. It reminded me how far I’ve come.

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Whatever success you’re chasing… business, career, relationships, health – any of them – you wind up attracting that success by the CONFIDENCE you bring to the playing field.

And that confidence doesn’t have to be in a big, loud personality.

It certainly doesn’t have to come from knowing how to juggle – though I highly recommend it.

The confidence comes from KNOWING you are worthy of living a good life.

A life filled with love, money, and peace.

Get the difference between KNOWING and BELIEVING. Two different things altogether.

Belief leaves room for doubt.

Knowing is eternal, permanent, safe.

Even if you don’t have what you want, you know you’re capable of achieving it.

And you feel safe enough to want more.

Get it?

People with that kind of confidence don’t have to know all the answers.

They know a way will show up.

And they know they’re capable of playing along with whatever life puts in their path.

Some mistake that kind of confidence for ARROGANCE.

And of course, that’s insecurity. That’s the ego taking on a big, loud personality to hide its own fear.

Confidence.

It’s sexy.

It’s loving.

It’s truthful.

And it’s something you can learn.

HOW TO RECEIVE is where I teach you to be confident.

I developed the techniques over a twenty year counseling career, and as a professional trainer and entertainer.

(Yeah, there’s that juggling thing again.)

I developed the techniques by watching what worked with my students and clients.

Some were in their teens, some were in their 70′s.

What worked for all of them was getting that CONFIDENCE, no matter what was going on in their lives that moment.

They started feeling better.

They started feeling sexy.

They started feeling the desire for more…

And they started feeling like they were capable of getting it.

I’m taking on students for HOW TO RECEIVE right now.

People who want more…

But aren’t so far gone that they feel hopeless.

People who are willing to play along, meet me on the dance floor of life, and are willing to invest in themselves.

Take a look at HOW TO RECEIVE.

2012 is going to be a big year for a lot of people.

Doesn’t matter how good or bad your 2011 is.

It just matters that you’re willing to become CONFIDENT.

And attractive.

And an open vessel to receiving.

Your Confident Friend,
Larry

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If you ever thought you were too far gone…

If you ever thought confidence was only for people who had it since they were little…

If you ever thought confidence and being attractive was something you either had
or you didn’t…

Then you should have seen me as a kid.

And even as a young adult.

Small, scared, frail. Getting old before my time.

I see the pictures of me, even in my early thirties.

Quiet desperation.

I could help others, but had a hard time helping myself.

Then I made a deal with my fear.

I set it aside while I learned to think, feel and act differently.

And by the time I was done, there was no need for the fear in my life.

Or the worry, which is just another form of fear.

So they just left on their own.

Is it time to replace fear with confidence?

Is it time to replace disappointment with confidence?

Is it time to replace anger with confidence?

HOW TO RECEIVE

Meet me on the dance floor.

Let’s do it together.

October 3, 2011 · Filed Under Uncategorized

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You Don’t Have To Be A Hostage To Your Mistakes

Confession time: I’ve made mistakes.
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Lots of them.
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I’ve made little boo boo’s.  Social faux paus that caused awkwardness for me and others.

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I’ve made choices based on greed, and scarcity, and fear of loss.

I’ve hurt people based on my own hurt, and wanting revenge.

I’ve wanted them to feel as badly as I felt.  I’ve wanted them to roll in the mud with me.

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I’ve put people down in order to make myself seem bigger by comparison.

I’ve hurt strangers, acquaintances, friends, and people who I love dearly and intimately.

I’ve done wrong many times in my life.

And of all these mistakes, the biggest one I’ve made is allowing them to dictate how I saw myself and what I did in the future.

And I am thrilled to say…that is a mistake I have learned to avoid repeating.

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Let’s start with one important thing, my friend.  Making mistakes is part of the human condition.

It’s our birthright.  It’s our Divine gift.

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We’ve been given freedom of choice.  We are more than our hard-wired neural programming.

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We’ve been given the power of observation and reason, so we get to learn from experience.

We’ve been given the gift of humor. We get to reframe our screw up’s from tragic to funny. We get to laugh.

We’ve been given the power of forgiveness. We can carve out a space of love and compassion for anyone who has done anything.

There is nothing more uplifting than reflecting love back at someone who has done you wrong.
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Uplifting for them; uplifting for you.
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I’m telling you what we all already know. We keep forgetting.
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We live in a culture of “gotcha” media, where the mistakes of celebrities become the background music for our own thoughts, feelings and behavior.
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We become afraid of risk. We internalize failure.

And it needs to be said….there is no one here who hasn’t made mistakes. We’re supposed to.

It’s one of the only two ways we learn.  We learn from failure, and we learn from success.

We do what feel right and we learn not to do that which has consequences, internal and external.

So why the heck shouldn’t we continue to put ourselves out there?

Why shouldn’t we celebrate our mistakes as part of our humanity, with a commitment to do better in the future?

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Because someone is going to continue to hold our mistakes over our head?  A teacher? A parent? A wronged spouse or lover?

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Is it possible that emotion of continued anger is their mistake, directed at you?

And of course the truth: no one is harder on us than ourselves.

We beat the crap out of ourselves for our errors, what we did, what we failed to do.

And often, we have the voice of someone in our head – that parent, that boss, that lover – who continues to kick us, sometimes from the grave.

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Well here’s a news flash, my brothers and sisters…

There is no one here who hasn’t made mistakes.

It’s who we are.  It’s how we grow.

Whatever you did, or didn’t do, you made choices based on the consciousness and the awareness you had then.

You were hurt at the time, or scared, or angry, or greedy.

You’re stronger now.

And whatever you did, you gave someone else an opportunity to grow.  And learn. And find compassion.

And right now…in this red hot moment, you can learn to make a daily habit of love, and laughter, and celebrating life.

And you are perfectly positioned to let go of anger, disappointment and fear.

And you are perfectly positioned to replace them with grace, and confidence, and laughter, and ease.

And you are perfectly positioned to choose your path.

You don’t have to be a hostage to your mistakes.
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You can be their student, and they your teacher.

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And when you’ve learned the lesson, you can do what all good students do…

Graduate.

And move onto the next school.

Live.

Love.

Laugh.

Feel good.  We all deserve it.

Yes, you too.

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HOW TO RECEIVE starts on May 1.
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Everyone who has already signed up has lived a life of trial and error.
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And they decided they’re ready to let go of hurt.
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And receive.
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Good stuff.
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Lots of it.
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Come join us.
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Exchange that energy.
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Live with an open heart and an open hand.
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Let the Universe fill it with blessings.
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Love.
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Money.
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Health.
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Peace.
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CLICK HERE to play.
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Your Pal,
Larry

April 15, 2011 · Filed Under Uncategorized

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You Gorgeous Hunk O’ Woman!


I have a good number of female friends and coaching clients. At some point in our friendship/professional relationship I refer to nearly all of them as something similar to the title of this article.

There are two main reasons for my use of that statement..

1. I mean it every time I say it. I find the beauty in each person I hang out with. There’s always something. A smile, long flowing hair, a lilt in the voice. In everyone who crosses my universe there’s something that’s adorable. Even if it’s not their defining characteristic, it’s there. I’ve done this with women age 14 to 70, and sometimes with my fellow males.

2. When I point out the gorgeousness of the person I’m hanging out with it tends to elicit more of the same. I try to be careful in the way I put it out there…always respectful and playful. Usually flirty. If someone’s not open to my brand of coaching and/or friendship I probably wouldn’t attract them into my life.

If they are in alignment with me they appreciate the positive attention. It’s absolutely amazing how people (not just talking women here) need to hear good things said about them. Most of us crave it, though we’ve been socialized not to own up to that fact.

I’ve seen people absolutely conflicted in their lives…twisted up like a pretzel. They’re scared, lonely, sometimes desperate and working on what they think is a challenge of their intellect.

Then they get reintroduced to their own beauty…in a loving and playful way. And a flood of emotions come forth. Profound stuff happens. Pain they’ve been hanging onto forever comes to the surface, then gets washed away.

Energy that’s been tied up in self doubt and regret is now free to go exploring. And those seemingly impossible life problems get solved in the most amazing of ways.

Know anyone who can use some loving kindness on your part? Try giving some away.

See what happens. Most likely both of you will start feeling your inner and outer beauty…

and your POWER.

February 14, 2011 · Filed Under Uncategorized

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Audio: Tuning Into Your Special Frequency


CLICK HERE to listen.

There is ABSOLUTELY a level of perception, communication and understanding that transcends what we permit ourselves to experience.

It’s a matter of tuning into a frequency we don’t normally access…because we’re just too used to doing/perceiving/responding with our old habits.

You can use it to figure out what song comes on next.

Or you can use it get rich, provide love and comfort to others and create blessings everywhere you go.

Slow down, listen up and tune in.  It’s awesome!

Your Pal,
Larry

January 25, 2011 · Filed Under Uncategorized

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