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Actually I take that back. Most of what I do isn’t work, because I love it. It feels more like play. I put a lot of time and energy into it, so someone else outside will thinking I’m working. Please don’t tell my secret.
I’ve also got some pretty good physical skills. I’m in great shape for my age, and even founded the iii Method For Ultimate Health with DeAnna.
So when I went to see my mom and dad this past weekend, and they gave me a box with my elementary school progress reports, it brought me back to a time when I felt differently about myself…
Because other people gave me that message.
Take a look at the top of this post. Check this progress report out from Ms. Petty, my first grade teacher. She was a brand new teacher back in 1972, so it’s not out of the question she’s still in education. I liked her a bunch!
The bottom paragraph says…
“Larry needs improvement in motor coordination. Mrs. DeFina, our physical education teacher, has suggested he attend our special physical education class.”
Very true. I was a late bloomer physically, and it took me a long time to figure stuff out. I was also usually the last to be picked for kickball and dodgeball. I am so glad we stopped that barbaric practice.
But that defined how I saw myself physically, for years. All the way up through my early twenties.
Of course, once I worked that “motor coordination” thing out, I became a professional juggler. So it was a little easier letting go of that label.
Here’s one of my fifth grade progress reports…
Now if memory serves, I was a pretty good kid in fifth grade. Sensitive, a little timid, just starting to take some chances.
And really uninterested in school.
It probably wasn’t easy to be my teacher. I remember Mrs. Mitchell being a bit of a curmudgeon. But I also know I wasn’t particularly responsive. There really wasn’t much you could do to get me to do my homework, or keep my desk neat. I had other things to think about…like who was going to lead the National League in home runs that year (truth!). Or which song was going to be Number One that week on Casey Kasem’s American Top 40.
Multiplying fractions? Don’t bother me. I already had that figured out, even if I wasn’t using the “approved method.”
In my own way, my work habits were very good. If there was something I wanted to know, I put my attention on it.
Mrs. Mitchell didn’t see it that way.
Now again, I don’t blame teachers for being frustrated. Looking back, as a professional educator, I’m sure there were better ways to handle a student like me. But it wasn’t an incompetent job by the teacher.
Here’s the part I don’t like…when I went to middle school the following year, my sixth grade teacher told me he had a conversation about me with Mrs. Mitchell, and he heard about my disorganization and sloppiness.
Now that wasn’t cool.
And yes, maybe there were other parts of it I never got to here. But that’s what stuck with me.
And I don’t know many eleven year old kids with the consciousness to see past hearing the words, “lazy and sloppy” when they’re said all the time.
All of us have a version of this. We’re all replaying a script we were given at some point.
How much would you like to toss away the words of some (probably) well-meaning people who just didn’t see inside your head, your heart, your circumstances?
How you would like to be the smart kid, the hard working kid, the motivated kid? Instead of the lazy, disorganized kid?
That’s a choice you can make right now.
You’re an adult. You get to detach from the messages you bought into.
You get a do-over. With the decision making skills of an adult, and the ability to work and play like a kid.
Write your own darn progress report!
What part of your past have you let go of? What have you become better at than you thought you could?
What are you still working on? What messages are you still working on releasing?
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I told everyone I was committed to mastering four ball juggling by the end of summer.
Did I make it?
Did I fulfill my commitment?
Clearly, the answer is no.
That video was about the fifth take before I gave up. No way was I going to master it while trying to film it!
So I failed, huh?
Well, yes. And no.
But I got a heck of a lot better over the course of the summer.
And here’s the cool part…
In the process of making the commitment, and doing the work of getting better, I became more focused, more intense.
As in I got involved with The Guru Code, which is genuinely revolutionizing how people approach leadership and attraction in home business and Internet marketing.
We started the iii Method For Ultimate Health, which is the one system that genuinely brings fitness, nutrition and personal development together in one seamless program. Many people are going to lose weight, keep it off, get healthier…and not have to do it on “will power.”
I made great strides in my personal health and meditation practice. I don’t just “do” T’ai Chi…it also does me.
Would those things have happened if I hadn’t made the commitment to learning four ball juggling?
Maybe. But I doubt it. Not in the same way, with the same focus and commitment.
As DeAnna says, the way we do one thing is the way we do everything.
So no, I didn’t get the final result I was striving for.
I got more. More than keeping four balls up in the air for more than a few seconds.
By the way, I ain’t done yet!
How has being committed to something changed your life?
What have you committed to, even if you haven’t finished it yet?
What are you willing to commit to in public?
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