Take a look at this…
“It was meant to happen.”
That’s what many people say when things go wrong.
No…it wasn’t “meant to happen.” There’s nothing preordained.
There are PATTERNS of thinking, feeling and acting that elicit certain outcomes. That’s what makes things happen…that and the circumstances we expose ourselves to day in and day out.
We can be grateful for whatever happened – meant to otherwise – for what it teaches us.
And we can change how we think, and feel and respond…and make the better outcomes from things that were “meant to happen.”
This whole thought form started with people saying there’s a reason for everything.
See above. There really isn’t.
At least that’s my take on it. My great friend and Food Angel Super Col disagrees with me to an extent…
“Aaaah, interesting! Will need to play with this one … I’m one of those who do feel I’m on a sort of journey, not with preordained happenings, but choice points and things which were dropped into my path to respond to. From time to time I say things like, ‘It wasn’t meant to be!'”
“My mom says this all the time, I was raised on this phrase! If something doesn’t turn out the way I had thought it was going to, it helps me to release unhealthy attachment and move with the current. Not fatalistic or powerless though.”
So I choose and move in a certain direction then choose anew when I see the new landscape I find myself in, choosing then releasing, choosing then releasing.
OK…I’m down with that. Finding the growth opportunities in everything that happens…even when there’s pain, loneliness, isolation involved.
That’s easy enough to understand.
And even though we don’t talk about it as much, to appreciate the lessons in those events that are joyful, funny, sexy, happy, etc.
Does that mean there are “reasons” for those things.
We have free will. We can imagine there’s a force at work that says, “(insert your name here) needs a lesson in humility. Let’s have him lose his job, or afflict his child with an illness.
And if it helps you to believe a beneficent force is testing you, and that everything comes out fine in the end, please continue believing that.
And by the way, I am certain things come out fine in the end. Because we all go back to our source, which is love, by any name you wish to give it.
And that free will also means you can choose to ignore the growth opportunities that come with everything that happens. You can curse the darkness instead of learning how to find the light switch or discover fire.
That same free will lets you take control of everything in your life you have control over, or at least influence. It lets you develop commitment to your goals, and compassion for your fellow travelers, which is a heck of a lot easier to carry around than judgment and indignation.
So yeah…maybe that’s the reason things happen…whether it’s actually a “reason” or not!
When was the last time something happened for a “reason?”
What was the lesson? Did you learn it and live it?
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