Sometimes trainers and bloggers will write things that are intended to make people angry, to draw attention, to polarize people. There’s a good chance this piece will do that. It is NOT intentional. I apologize in advance if you are offended by this piece…if you see yourself in a negative light after reading it. It’s just something that needs to be said.
When you look at the home business world, especially what goes on in network marketing companies, you’ll find lots of phrases and sayings being tossed around.
These are good things. There are some nuggets of truth in them. One of the earliest phrases that charged me up was “working my business part time with a full time attitude.” I heard someone saying it at an opportunity meeting and it made immediate sense.
So I started using it.
Then I saw people roll their eyes whenever I said it. And I knew it began sounding ridiculous.
We all repeat things we hear in all parts of life. The home business world is no different.
What kind of repeater we are tells us how we’re progressing in our business, and how willing people are to follow us.
It seems to me there are four kinds of repeaters.
And like anything else (here comes a phrase from Jim Rohn I’ve repeated many times)…
Where you start is not where you have to stay.
The parrot simply repeats back what it heard. There’s no thought, no discerning, no evaluation about whether something is good or bad, right or wrong.
Parrots don’t process what they hear. They don’t have the brain capacity. They’re a prisoner of their limited intellect. As such they can be easily manipulated to get them to say whatever someone likes.
And by the way, parrots are very happy to live out their lives in captivity, eat when they’re given food and sleep with a cover over their cage so the outside world doesn’t interfere with their daily routine.
When babies learn to speak, they repeat any word or phrase given to them. There is no deep meaning attached to words, but they understand the emotion behind them. Harsh words said in a soothing loving voice will be repeated, while gentle or truthful words said with hostility will be avoided, or even feared.
Like the parrot, babies do not have the capacity to understand the deeper meaning of what they’re saying. The potential for growth is there, but not the awareness. Given the chance to grow, and a safe place to try new things and learn from mistakes, many babies grow into strong, healthy teens, and then adults.
And like real babies, baby repeaters all have their own time frame for development. What takes some babies years to figure out, others pick up almost right away. Neither is right or wrong. They’re just following their own cycle.
Teenagers are very interesting. Some of them look like babies. Some look like full adults. You can have two teens of identical ages who have very little in common on the outside. Inside can be a whole different story. The physically underdeveloped teen can hold a full adult conversation, while the physically mature teen might still have the mental and emotional maturity of a young child.
Teenage repeaters are the same. They are emerging. But they still have a great deal of growth to go through. And it’s easy to be deceived by the outward appearances. Titles, pins, the way they dress, sophisticated words and phrases…it might make the teen repeater seem as if they’re operating on a higher plane than they actually are. And the opposite is true. Someone who seems to be awkward and immature might have much more skill and knowledge than meets the eye.
Like typical teenagers, teenage repeaters are emerging into adulthood. But they’re not grown yet. They still have issues to work through, and they aren’t ready for the power and responsibility of full adults yet. That’s why we let them run our retail operations and drive cars with restrictions. And why we let them do certain things in our businesses, but not others. When they get more power than they’re ready for, they show their lack of judgement and make poor decisions. That’s when adults take the control back.
4. The Adult Repeater
Adults have learned from experience. They have made mistakes and grown from them. They’ve also succeeded and learned how to duplicate that success in their everyday lives. They can take in information, decide what works and throw out what doesn’t. They can choose their words and actions based on what they want and how much they’re willing to do in order to get it.
Adults aren’t perfect. They still make mistakes. But they know how to learn from them, make corrections and implement those corrections into their daily lives. They let what they learn change them, instead of trying to change the world in order to fit their desires.
Adult repeaters do the same things. They listen, they decide which parts work for them. They put them into their own style rather than blindly parrot back what they hear. They will also consider their audience – who is listening – and adjust their tone and language so the listener has the best chance of understanding.
They have lots of words and lots of experience, so they know how to make mid-course corrections. They aren’t locked into the same message because it’s all they know.
Adult repeaters also know how to consider the source of what they repeat. If they’re asked to repeat something they know is wrong, or has bad intentions, they won’t do it. They’ll look for something else to repeat. Or they’ll even use their own experience to become the leader, and invite others to repeat their words.
I’m sure you figured out that it’s possible for people who operate as adults in most phases of their lives can be a different kind of “repeater” when it comes to their home business.
We’ve all seen smart, even professional people act like teens, or babies, or even parrots when it comes to repeating back what they hear.
And it’s possible for that young, seemingly unsophisticated person to speak like an adult, to be someone worth repeating.
There is no judgement in any of this. Everyone deserves respect, no matter what kind of “repeater” they are.
This is about readiness. How much someone is ready to do the things it takes to succeed.
And since so much of home business success is about the words we use and how we use them…how willing people are to follow us based on what we say and do, what and how repeat becomes really important for us.
Look at what and how you’re repeating. Look at who you’re repeating.
Look and see who, if anyone is repeating you.
And decide if you want to cross over into a new stage of development.
HOW TO RECEIVE can help give you the maturity, confidence and strength to be a great repeater, and someone worth repeating.