Larry Hochman

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Healing The Pain Points

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Pain Points

We all have them.

No matter how good someone’s life is going; no matter how much peace we’ve created within our being, how much forgiveness, how much stability…

If we dig deep enough we will find our Pain Points.

That’s not a bad thing. In fact, that’s the thing the drives us forward.

If everything was hunky dory all the time, there would be no motivation for us to change.

Some people will say, “if that’s the case, call them something else. Call them desire points, or dissatisfaction. Pain is a bad word.”

OK. But sometimes that describes what we’re in.

For some it’s obvious. There’s immense physical or psychic pain we are desperately trying to get out of.

Or financial pain, which is another form of psychic pain.

Unhealed hurts from the past.

It doesn’t matter how it looks to the outside world. It’s why some people who seem to have everything go home and put a gun in their mouth.

And it’s why some in end stage cancer, in physical agony reflect back nothing but love and gratitude for the life they were given.

Everyone’s Pain Points are different.

And from a counseling and coaching point of view, there are always things we can do to find them, address them and heal them.

Stop Asking Why

When a counselor, coach or therapist works with someone, the good ones will have them get into activity.

Not sit, wait and wonder why it’s not working.

And when they progress they always find their resistance. Their Pain Points.

When I’m working with someone and we find them, I don’t retreat. And I don’t do workarounds.

And I don’t beat on my clients to power through them.

Relax Into Them

We play with them. We honor them.

We let them speak to us.

We soothe the heart.

We overwhelm them with compassion and self-respect.

We eliminate the need for the resistance, quickly or slowly, whatever the case may be.

We become bigger than our hurt, bigger than our Pain Points.

Your Pain Points didn’t show up overnight. And they aren’t going away overnight either.

But with time, care, commitment and a plan, you can heal them a lot faster than if you let them sit in your subconscious forever.

Heal your Pain Points. You’re worth it.

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YOUR TURN

What has helped you find and heal your pain points?

Did it happen fast? Slow?

What were the benefits to your life when you healed them?

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Your Dreams

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Jill achieved her dream!

I visited my older daughter at her new apartment in Brooklyn yesterday.

It’s nice. Brand new, in fact! She and her housemates are the first people to occupy it. And it looks it.

It’s the perfect place if you’re in your early 20’s. Or your late 50’s, if that’s what you like.

Your dreams.

After I took a look at the place (and dropped off the groceries she wanted), we took the train into lower Manhattan. She works in the Google building. What an amazing environment!

As a parent, I’m proud of her. Jill had a vision of what she wanted her life to look like. She loved the idea of urban living. It was probably her highest priority at the time.

Not using her new college degree to climb a corporate or academic ladder, although that would have been fine too.

She knew what she wanted her life to look like…and feel like.

And she structured her life, and her effort in a way that would allow it to happen.

See that photo? That’s the subway station she goes to each morning. She crosses the East River and steps out into a job and an environment that thrills her.

Funny thing is, my parents’ generation did everything they could to get out of Brooklyn. She did everything she could to get back in.

If she had listened to what other people told her should be important, she’d be living their life, not her own.

Just about everyone who winds up on this blog has a vision for their lives.

One they want badly, but is “impractical” for how their lives are going at the present moment.

You dreams are yours.

No one has the right to tell you you’re wrong for having them.

And you will hear people tell you you’re wrong. I’m sure you already are.

Almost all of them are trying to protect you from what they don’t understand.

Try not to be angry.

And don’t cave.

It’s going to take desire, but also fortitude.

As in personal strength.

You can gently stay on your path.

Or if need be, you can say, “screw you, I’m going after mine.”

Put some structure in your life. It’ll help.

Take care of the people you committed to taking care of. It’s the right thing to do, and it’s grounded in love.

And respect and honor the dreams that were put into you.

Let them unfold in their own way.

Go get them.

You’re worth it.

 

YOUR TURN

What dream have you gone after? What dream did you have that you backed away from?

How did things turn out?

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The Answers AREN’T Right In Front Of You

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Another day to fully absorb the training we got from Gary Vaynerchuk this past Saturday.

Not to mention the training from Diane, and myself…and a very powerful message from Martin Danzer.

There were a million takeaways, and one of the most powerful was something that just came to me…

The answers to what you’re looking for in  marketing, branding, sales…

They’re right in front of you.

And they aren’t.

They are, because most of the things you need to do in order to succeed in a home business of any kind are the things you would want done to, with and for you, if you were the customer.

In other words, think like your people!

They’re not in front of you for two reasons…

1. People in business often don’t want you to see solutions clearly. That way they can charge you for them.

2. Most of us have vision that is clouded by our own lack of confidence in ourselves.

In our own judgment.

In our own fear.

In our own greed.

In our own lack of self worth.

If you lift that veil of ignorance, some amazing sh-t happens.

Yes, you make money. Often a lot of it.

More importantly, as Gary Vee says, you create a legacy.

Move to where the answers are.

Go inward.

Then look confidently but critically outward.

Learn stuff.

Diane is the best teacher I know.

Get strong and confident.

Mind Intensive will help you.

Peace Out,
Larry

P.S.: Photos and soul shaking quotes from the Ask Gary Vee event are up.

Take A Look!

 

Stop Living As A Slave To Your Past (Home Business Tips)

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The thing that sounds really scary is the thing that will set you free.

When you hear Bushwick, you think ghetto. You think crime. You think urban blight.

In 2016 the Bushwick section of Brooklyn is young urban professionals. And coffee houses. And music halls.

And now my daughter!

Are you gonna do the things you’ve dreaming about? Are you going to do them today? Or are you going to get scared off because you’re still thinking about the past? Live in what IS, not what was.

YOUR TURN

What have you been afraid to do because of what happened in the past?

What have you been bold enough to try, and had a really good experience because you did?

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Network Marketing, Affiliate Marketing, Your Own Stuff: Risks and Rewards

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Think about your best life six months from now. Or a year from now. Or two years.
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What’s the reward?

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How will your life change? Your bottom line? Your day to day life? Your relationships? Your self-confidence?

Pretty cool, huh?
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Now, what are you willing to RISK to make it happen?

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It’s probably not what you think it is.

Don’t be afraid of it.

I take that back.

Respect the risk. Have some anxiety about it.

Then, control it. Don’t let it control you.

That’s how winners are made.

Be one.

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