We all have them.
No matter how good someone’s life is going; no matter how much peace we’ve created within our being, how much forgiveness, how much stability…
If we dig deep enough we will find our Pain Points.
That’s not a bad thing. In fact, that’s the thing the drives us forward.
If everything was hunky dory all the time, there would be no motivation for us to change.
Some people will say, “if that’s the case, call them something else. Call them desire points, or dissatisfaction. Pain is a bad word.”
OK. But sometimes that describes what we’re in.
For some it’s obvious. There’s immense physical or psychic pain we are desperately trying to get out of.
Or financial pain, which is another form of psychic pain.
Unhealed hurts from the past.
It doesn’t matter how it looks to the outside world. It’s why some people who seem to have everything go home and put a gun in their mouth.
And it’s why some in end stage cancer, in physical agony reflect back nothing but love and gratitude for the life they were given.
Everyone’s Pain Points are different.
And from a counseling and coaching point of view, there are always things we can do to find them, address them and heal them.
Stop Asking Why
When a counselor, coach or therapist works with someone, the good ones will have them get into activity.
Not sit, wait and wonder why it’s not working.
And when they progress they always find their resistance. Their Pain Points.
When I’m working with someone and we find them, I don’t retreat. And I don’t do workarounds.
And I don’t beat on my clients to power through them.
Relax Into Them
We play with them. We honor them.
We let them speak to us.
We soothe the heart.
We overwhelm them with compassion and self-respect.
We eliminate the need for the resistance, quickly or slowly, whatever the case may be.
We become bigger than our hurt, bigger than our Pain Points.
Your Pain Points didn’t show up overnight. And they aren’t going away overnight either.
But with time, care, commitment and a plan, you can heal them a lot faster than if you let them sit in your subconscious forever.
Heal your Pain Points. You’re worth it.
What has helped you find and heal your pain points?
Did it happen fast? Slow?
What were the benefits to your life when you healed them?
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