Years ago, when we were building our first home business I was doing weekly phone calls. On one of them I talked about the importance of Personal Development.
The quote: “Personal Development isn’t everything. It’s the only thing.”
That’s truth. I stand behind that quote.
Problem is, people take “Personal Development” and turn it into their sanctuary.
Let me explain that. In 2007 I saw a post on a social networking site that was popular then. It said a lady many of us knew well had “quit the Law of Attraction.”
She meant it. She felt betrayed by it…that all the intending and “happy thoughts” she was launching hadn’t gotten her anywhere. That she was spinning her wheels. She was done.
I don’t know what happened after that.
My guess is she moved onto a religion. Or a guru, or some other spiritual movement…
Some other form of “Personal Development.”
You get the idea.
Personal development isn’t about joining a “movement,” even though there are plenty of great programs to start the journey.
I consider the master’s degree I earned in counseling from Central Connecticut State University to be the first real personal development program I started. The advanced professional diploma I received was the second.
Both of those had a purpose. There was a goal, an outcome…something I wanted. I got the degree in counseling with the idea of becoming a high school guidance counselor. It worked.
I got the professional diploma in educational leadership with the idea of becoming a school administrator. It didn’t happen. After figuring out how I wanted my future to look I chose not to pursue it.
That was focused personal development. I knew what I wanted. I went after it.
I knew that just learning how to do things wasn’t going to be enough.
I knew I had to change the way I thought. And to a certain extent change the way I felt about things.
I definitely knew I was going to have to change the way I responded to other people.
And here’s where there is such a thing as too much Personal Development…
When you buy a book, or watch a video, listen to audio, etc., or even go to a seminar with the idea of changing your life, that’s very cool. It often works.
But…it only works when you’re willing to take the stuff you learn and implement it right away.
If you choose to go through the motions of Personal Development without making a commitment to the work that comes along with it, or the success that happens when you do it right…that’s your choice.
As long as you just want to be in a good environment and have fun. I’m all for it.
And sometimes, after years of watching, listening, cheering for others as they do the deal, you might decide it’s your turn…then buckle down and take it seriously.
Hey, it’s all good.
It’s when you think joining a movement, plugging in to any program for hours a day, but really doing it is going to get you to that next place…
That’s when it’s too much. When the expectations don’t line up with the commitment.
You can do whatever you like. You can join stuff, then quit. Sometimes it’s not the right thing for you.
But please, as someone who teaches personal development, and loves when his clients succeed…
Do you personal development work.
And put it into ACTION.