Most of the stuff I put on the NO MORE HOLDING BACK blog comes from my own experiences. My own challenges, screw ups, dust myself off experiences and successes.
And every once in a while I get inspiration from some of my favorite social media peeps. And sometimes my not so favorite ones!
RAVEN STARRE is definitely one of my favorites. When she put up a status about a $37.00 teleseminar she’s hosting, it attracted a crowd. And some of that crowd started blaming others for a bad economy, or not having the 37 bucks to attend the event.
I’m not judging any person. We’ve all had those times in our lives.
But…if you want things to get better, there are certain principles you better follow.
So here are the three smacks upside the head I put on the post. I expanded on them a bit here.
BTW…if you’re looking at jumping into the home business arena, Raven is a rock star with a documented record of helping people break through and get rich. Hit her up!
1. When your first move is bringing partisan politics into a thread about prosperity…no matter what they are, liberal or conservative, you’re telling the world your prosperity is based on something outside yourself. And you don’t get to say you were talking about “them.” “They” can speak for themselves…they don’t need you. Stop getting distracted by non-issues. And stop trying to take other people with you.
President Obama isn’t sitting in a room trying to figure out how to ruin the economy, and your life.
Neither was President Bush, or anyone else. Like ’em or not, they’re doing their best. If you want to blame politicians for your troubles, or anyone else’s, get in line. There’s a long list of broke people ahead of you.
2. Don’t ever, ever, EVER telegraph your story of lack for all the world to see, then expect to be seen as strong. I don’t care what is going on in your life. We’ve all had shit happen to us. Airing it in public, unless you’re telling people how you overcame it is the sign of a non-leader. That’s not personal. That’s just human nature and psychology. Keep your private struggles private.
Expressing vulnerability is one thing…to make a public statement of not having money is another. When I express my vulnerability (and believe me…I do), I pick my spots carefully. I always determine, what, where, who and when. So when I open myself up to the things that challenge me now – and there are some – it’s with close advisers who have gained my trust…and in private. And when I say I was $40,000 in consumer debt, it’s not until I found my way out of it by rearranging my thoughts and emotions, then letting the actions follow suit.
Leadership does mean allowing yourself to be vulnerable. The very act of standing up in front of a room (or a virtual room) makes you open to criticism and ridicule.
It doesn’t mean letting the world know what you haven’t achieved yet. Most people are more interested in giving you ridicule or pity. I don’t want either one.
So when I bring it, it’s not to tell the world how much I do or don’t have. There are places to process your money struggles, or your relationship struggles, or your weight struggles.
It’s with people who are qualified to help, or where your vulnerability is going to be accepted and supported.
It’s NOT in the post with the guy who blamed the economic problems of the world on President Obama. Seriously…what kind of feedback do you think you’ll get from that thread?
3. I promise you…if you took someone from 100 years ago and magically plopped them down into today’s world with its technology and economy, they wouldn’t believe how much opportunity there is…even in a so called “down” economy. It’s all relative. If you needed to make money to survive…you’d find a way. So if you want something badly enough, you’ll find a way for that too. If not, that’s fine. I love all people.
But be real. Don’t expect to get the rewards of prosperity if you’re only willing to take what someone else is willing to give.
Like these? Did they piss you off? Got any Head Slaps of your own? Share them here in the Comment Section!