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Loss

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Loss

In four days we will experience a loss.

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And it’s a gain at the same time.

Our daughter, Sarah leaves for Australia on Tuesday. She’ll be there for a year, working studying and seeing the world.

And of course it’s made easier by the fact we will Skype, and FaceTime and email, and do all the other things technology has gifted us with.

And knowing that after 19 years she’s stepping out on her own, and she’ll return a fully grown woman, makes us very happy.

And when you consider other mothers and fathers lose their children to military deployment, where it’s an entirely different life experience, I have zero to complain about.

Still, it’s a loss. I don’t get to walk past her room and hear her breathing. (She keeps the door shut.)

I don’t get to listen to her singing in the kitchen while I’m trying to write, or shoot a video.

I don’t get to touch or smell my little girl, who stopped being a little girl years ago.

Every parent gets this. Almost all kids leave home…sometimes to the other side of the world.

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Doesn’t mean it isn’t loss. But we get over it.

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Because that’s the way it’s supposed to be.

Kids are supposed to leave home to make their own way.

Parents are supposed to grieve the loss…

Then celebrate having gotten another one out of the nest.

And start the next phase, a little lighter than before.

I bless the fact we have two healthy adult daughters who are making their own out of the nest. Many parents aren’t as lucky.

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OK, let’s talk about you.

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Loss is a part of life. The big ones, the small ones, everything in between.

Heartache is gonna happen.

And trying to build a life around avoiding it is a fool’s errand.

True for relationships. True for families.

True for health and wellness.

And true for our careers and businesses.

Many of the folks who read and watch me are home business builders in one form or another.

And a bunch of folks are learning to step out and move past the blocks that hold them back now. They’re in the MIND INTENSIVE with me this summer.

They’re big, brave dogs, as I like to call them. :)

And just like the rest of us, they’ve experienced all different kinds of loss.

Financial loss. Embarrassment. Ridicule from people in their lives over what they’re doing.

And like everyone else, it’s held them back to some degree.

Not like everyone else, they’re facing it head on.

They’re looking their loss in the eye.

And figuring out they are stronger than it is.

And yes, we’re using some techniques I’ve practiced over a long counseling and coaching career.

And we’re tweaking and fine tuning as we go along.

But they’re doing it.

And suddenly, the loss doesn’t seem so bad.

In fact, it seems natural, even welcome.

Because the big, brave dogs who don’t get paralyzed by their losses…who learn and grow from it…

They become the leaders. They make the most money.

They have the most fun.

They give the most, love, compassion and support.

And when they experience loss again (and they will), they have better skills to deal with it.

HOW TO RECEIVE is available right now, at a pretty reasonable price.

MIND INTENSIVE will be available to the public this fall.

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And I am looking for people who are ready to stop being victims of loss.

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And grow into a pinnacle leader and achiever.

In fact I’m gathering up a crew right now for a special Fall Focus Intensive.

It’s going to be very limited..just a few people I can pour into, and who are ready to receive it.

Home business builders are especially welcome.

But athletes, career changers, people seeking new or better relationships… this is for you too.

No details yet.

But if you want to be among the first to know when it comes out, drop me a note at LarryHochman@SBCGlobal.net.

Subject Line: Fall Focus Intensive

I’m going to go spend the last few hours with Sarah. I’m going to grab a few hugs while they’re available.

Go out and do something wonderful.

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P.S.: I get there are wounds that are so deep, it seems like we’ll never recover.

And no, I don’t have every answer.

I only know that the best way to honor the past is to make the present as strong, loving, and life affirming as you can.

And build a magnificent future while you’re at it.

Let me know if you’d like my help with that.

33% Discount On “My Baby”

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Around ten years ago I wrote a story that changed my life.

And when I say I “wrote a story,” what I really mean is it wrote me.

HOW TO JUGGLE was the first book I published on line. I never gave it the proper formatting it deserves, nor the promotion.

That’s about to change.

I could spend the next 12 paragraphs telling you why, but that doesn’t matter.

Here’s what does matter, for you…

This book, about five young adults, and the adventure they have on a Saturday morning has quietly inspired some people to get up, do more and achieve things they never saw themselves doing.

And some people you may know agree with me.

And so, I’ve decided to format it properly, and when the time is right, in the near future, promote it the way it’s supposed to be promoted.

Meanwhile I want you to have it.

And I want to start a buzz around it.

So, for the next 40 people who respond, I’m going to give it to you with a one third discount from its current price of $14.97.

Ten bucks.

When it hits the market in a more serious way later this year, the price point will probably be $19.97.

So it’ll be a 50% discount if you look at it that way. :)

Truth: the current formatting is a mess. It’s not pretty to look at. And I’m delivering them manually. It’s not an automatic download after purchase.

Not yet, anyway.

But the story itself is going to lift you up, as it has for others.

So…ten bucks to be the first kid on your block to have a pre-launch copy of HOW TO JUGGLE.

(And yes, you actually can learn how to juggle from reading the book.)

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Oh yeah, the other thing…

The other thing I’m asking for – and ONLY if you feel it – is a heartfelt testimonial after you’ve read the book.

Yes, I will be using the testimonials to promote.

Talk about how the book affected you…and keep it short! :)

Victory!

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Trust your Easter weekend was great!

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Mine was. We had a momentous occasion on Easter Sunday…

My daughter, Sarah beat me in a game of kings.

In case you’ve never played, that’s a form of checkers where every piece starts out as a king and they are configured in opposite corners of the board.

You wouldn’t think it’s a big deal, other than in the approximately 50 games of checkers we’ve ever played, this was the first time she legitimately beat me.

And it was simply by staying in the game long enough to adapt.

When I tried to tell her is this: in checkers you get beat because you’re either too passive and your opponent takes advantage of it, or you’re too aggressive and your opponent uses that to his or her advantage.

That’s how she beat me. I got overconfident and started moving recklessly, not seeing the board one or two moves ahead.

She waited me out and then double and triple jumped me. She separated my pieces from each other, and that was all she wrote.

Victory.

Sarah took the whole thing in stride. Never smiled, never did anything except be her usual 18-year-old self.

But deep down I have to believe she felt like a milestone had passed. I sure did!

The message is exactly what you think it is…

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If you stick around long enough in an environment where people know more than you do, you’ll take on their attitudes and their skills.

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And of course if you get complacent and arrogant you will quickly find out that what you had has been taken away.

But right this minute I prefer to celebrate the “coming of age” of the mighty Sarah.

So,Grasshopper…

What have you been doing long enough without any progress to show for it, because you haven’t been willing to take the next step?

What will happen when you decide to elevate your game by playing with a sharper crowd?

Are you willing to let go of the tiny little bit of stability you have in order to move on to something bigger, brighter, better?

Your move.

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Start small. Read how five young adults elevate their game and so something they didn’t think was possible…and the benefits they get from it. HOW TO JUGGLE is an amazing read.

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Or go a little bigger. HOW TO RECEIVE is a step-by-step system to clear away the obstacles to getting what you want…and replacing them with boldness, confidence and joy in the process. The book is great. So is the audio series. Having both is awesome!

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Or throw down and make a commitment. WORK WITH ME…ONE ON ONE. Invest in some quality time and become the superstar you probably haven’t allowed
yourself to imagine…because you were afraid it couldn’t come true.

It can. It’s been waiting to come out all this time.

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YOUR TURN…

When have you elevated your game and done things you hadn’t seen for yourself?

Who was your mentor and role model?

Have you helped someone else step up their own game?

Comment below. Like, share and Tweet above. Someone is waiting for you to lift them up.

Curt Schilling: Love, Honor And Taking Care Of Your Own

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Two disclaimers…

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1. I have two young adults daughters. They weren’t always young adults. They were kids. And like every kid, they were vulnerable to people with less than good intentions.

2. I’m a baseball fan. I especially like when players from my favorite sport do things that bring credit to it…even if they beat my New York Mets many times in their career.

So I may be a little more invested than other people in this story…though a lot of people are jumping up and down about it.

Third disclaimer: I get offended when people abuse the liberties that are the foundation of America and use them to promote hate, violence and cowardice, especially on the Internet.

No kidding. When American soldiers faced off against Nazi Germany and Japan in World War II it was with to protect the world from facism,

Not so morally bankrupt slackers could spread hatred without consequence. Seriously…a whole generation sacrificed for our liberty. They deserved better than this.

But I’m off track.

Like I said, I have two daughters, 21 and 18. Both know how to stand up for themselves. I like to think they were raised by Diane and me with honor, dignity and self-respect.

They both know when to draw the line with people who are treating them poorly.

And they both know how to ask for help when they’re in over their heads.

I tried never to step in and do for them unless they were at that point. That involved them having to work themselves out of a few tight spots.

But they knew we had their back when necessary.

And today they’re strong, independent minded, kind and compassionate.

Because we didn’t try to rescue them unless they really needed it.

I like when any parent gives their kids the tools to be strong. All different kinds of strong… physically, mentally, spiritually, financially.

It looks exactly like what Curt Schilling did. I’m sure he was tempted to do something stronger than he did.

But he didn’t overreact. He did what he had to do to keep his daughter safe and secure…while still letting her fend for herself.

Guess what?

If you’re a husband, a wife, a marketer, a trainer, a teacher, a lover, a friend…

If you’re anyone who cares about anyone else…

You just found your role model for empowering the people you care about.

Give people enough freedom to make their own mistakes, have their own successes and figure things out for themselves.

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Then when they’re in over their heads, step up.

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It takes your strength to not rescue someone from something they need to figure out on their own.

And it takes courage to put yourself in harm’s way when necessary.

But to be successful in anything that involves developing people…a family, a marketing team, a classroom,
a worldwide organization…

The principle is the same.

Take that to whatever you’re doing.

And thank a former ball player for the lesson.

Yeah, that’s what we do in the T3 Method.

Giving people a structure to lose weight, get healthy and find the self-love and self-respect so many have lost.

Letting them figure things out for themselves, and taking the occasional bump and bruise along the way.

Having their back when their in over their head.

Wanna know more? CLICK HERE.

 

YOUR TURN

Have you let someone you love be strong on their own, so they could learn to do for themselves?

Have you had someone’s back when they needed you?

Comment below. Like, share and Tweet above. Someone is going to be inspired by your strength.

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