I Have A Dream, Too
I love Martin Luther King, Jr. I love everything he stood for, and still stands for.
I love the nonviolent civil disobedience of the Civil Rights Movement of the 1960′s and 70′s…of facing down anger and hatred with love, compassion, courage and a determination to live the kind of life each of us has a right to.
I’m not interested in writing a history lesson. There are plenty of good places to go if that’s what you’re after.
I’m more interested in the present, and what you’re doing with YOUR life…NOW.
Because if you listen to Dr. King closely, he had one eye on what was happening then with black people (his words)…
…and one eye on the future…when people are judged, “not by the color of their skin, but on the content of their character.”
What he really wanted was to give everyone a chance to live out their Divine purpose, and not get tripped up by silliness like what color your skin is.
His biggest lesson for me, a white Jewish guy is the willingness to step outside one’s comfort zone.
Because if you think your life is gonna get any better by doing the same old thing, thinking the same old thing, reacting to life the same old way….
You know better.
Thanks to Martin Luther King, Jr. and many others, the struggle isn’t so much outside anymore.
(No matter what Wall Street does or what the politicians tell you.)
The challenge is inside.
Break the barriers.
Break the bondage of bad habits and poverty thinking.
Open your mind and your heart.
Let the blessings in.
I”m proud to share it.
I’m proud to sell it.
Yeah, a few bucks to build the framework for a better life.
When you think about what others had to go through to achieve their liberty.
When you think about what people in other parts of the world are going through now.
You had better appreciate all the good stuff you have.
And you have a responsibility to actively design your own life.
Or don’t whine when any outside force takes your choices from you.
Happy Birthday, Dr. King.
Thanks for blazing a trail…for all of us.
Your Friend,
Larry Hochman
HOW TO RECEIVE
What You Already Know In Your Heart
(And you know this because you’ve been the same way with other people.)
The people around you don’t want you to change.
They have an interest in keeping you exactly who you are, what you are, where you are.
Even if they tell you they hate the way you are right now.
They don’t want you to change.
(At least most of them.)
Because if they did, they’d either leave, or learn to love you unconditionally as you are right this minute.
And here’s the part you already know in your heart…
Without a profound change in the way you operate in the world, you’re not going to get what you want.
How do I know that?
Because if you’re reading this, you’re dissatisfied with some aspect of your life.
And someone told you to take the safe and secure route.
How’s that workin’ out for you?
People want you to be who you are so you won’t leave the bad relationship, or challenge the boundaries of it.
People want you to be who you are so you can make them feel comfortable in their mediocrity. If you get rich, if you lose weight, if you find a lover, it’s a challenge to them.
That old saying, “Misery loves company?” Turns out it’s true!
People want you to be slaves to the economic condition you’re in. That’s so they can keep you in the job that serves them.
And guess what?
You don’t get to blame any of them.
I suppose you could. And maybe that anger is the thing that motivates you to try something different.
But usually that anger just makes you bitter. It keeps you where you are, getting more and more unhappy each year.
Everyone I’ve worked with who has broken through…got their lover, took the weight off, made piles of money, fixed the broken relationships…
They all had one thing in common…
They decided to stop being pissed off at everyone else.
AND…they decided to stop being pissed off at themselves.
They learned how to receive.
Because, (and this is gonna knock your socks off)…
Everything you’re looking for…it’s also looking for you.
You just need to learn how to line up with it.
That’s what we do in HOW TO RECEIVE.
It’s the masterpiece of my 20 years as a professional counselor, coach, educator and entertainer.
It’s the look on someone’s face when they figured out what they’re capable of.
It’s the phone call I got from the person who got their first $10,000 check.
It’s the email I got from the lady who snuck away for a second from her romantic getaway weekend to tell me how much fun she’s having.
Put yourself in any of those situations.
Feel what’s possible.
And then realize you’re only a simple decision away from it…
Deciding you’re worth learning HOW TO RECEIVE.
Then it’s plugging into the system that works every time.
Because what you’re looking for is also looking for you.
Eight mind blowing weeks.
Hard work.
Studying.
Doing.
Laughing.
Maybe crying.
Letting go of years of frustration.
Doing it.
Feeling whole again.
Profoundly good.
Supported.
What you’re seeking is also seeking you.
Your Friend,
Larry
A Dad’s Love (You Can Take It Everywhere!)
So I’m in the local supermarket doing a “mini-shop.” Diane was out at a conference for the weekend and I was picking up some odds and ends to tide us over.
Walking down the frozen aisle I watched a father and daughter. She must have been around three or four years old.
The scene was very familiar to me. The dad was showering his daughter with the kind of love only a dad can give. He was picking her up, swinging her through the air, nuzzling her, allowing her to pull his ears…all the things fathers do to make their kids feel excited and safe at the same time.
And she was eating it up.
I saw the bonding between the two of them. As a little boy, I got that same treatment from my own dad. And as I father I did the same with my two girls.
Some of my greatest memories were from both times…the giver and the receiver.
Just about everyone knows what I’m talking about…those of us who were fortunate enough to be on either side of that experience, and those who wish they were.
That bonding does more than create great memories, though I wouldn’t trade them for anything.
It teaches us to trust ourselves.
It teaches we are good enough to ask for and expect good things from this world. Not every moment, but as a general rule.
It teaches us we have control. That we have the power to be the main influence of our own lives.
It teaches us we belong.
I watched it happen. That girl, through giving and receiving love, was learning to love herself.
And of course the process of self-love can get short circuited by any number of things. Too often we see the opposite of that father-daughter interaction.
Or the cruelty of others…short and shocking or long and pervasive.
Or poverty and suffering no one should have to experience.
What I teach is how to get back in touch with trusting yourself.
Everything I do as a trainer, as a coach, as a parent of two now teenage daughters, even as an entertainer, or just a guy on the street, is this…
We are fundamentally good.
We are fundamentally right.
We are worthy of trusting.
We are worthy of laughing at our own screw ups.
We are worthy of kindness from others when we make mistakes.
We are worthy of learning new skills, new tricks, new ways of thinking and feeling.
We are worthy of taking some risks, knowing we have the power to fail, learn, start over and ultimately succeed.
We are worthy of asking for more, and receiving it.
That dad was building a lifetime of positive expectation for that little girl. She will be safe and free at her core, no matter what life circumstances she experiences.
And believe it or not, it’s never too late for you to experience that same security and freedom.
Find someone to give it to you.
Start by permitting yourself to receive it.
Continue by giving it…to yourself and others.
Be open to the infinite possibilities of unconditional love….
You can take it everywhere.
Much Love,
Larry
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HOW TO RECEIVE: The Teleseminar Series begins Tuesday January 3, 2012.
Turn your dreams into reality.
Yeah, it’s been said before.
This is a road map to make it happen.
Money, romance, health, dangerous muscles…you name it!
All ya gotta do is name it.
Then line up with it.
Five steps…five very fun steps.
Details coming.
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Audio: Unconditional Love…No Matter What Shape You’re In
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Five minutes of compassionate, gentle truth.
I don’t care if you’re 100 pounds overweight, $100,000 in debt, or 100% lonely.
You are beautiful, loving and loved…right now.
I see through the disappointment, frustration and desperation.
And I see it in that beautiful, morbidly obese woman at the gym.
Find your beauty.
And find someone else who has it too. Discover it in each other.
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HOW TO RECEIVE
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