This is going to sound a lot like a story about weight lifting and weight loss.
And it will have those two topics in it.
But really, this is a story about anything you want to get better at.
Some of you know about the iii Method For Ultimate Health course I’m running with DeAnna Dimmitt.
(If you don’t, you will soon. We intend to be everywhere! We’re just running the pilot program right now.)
It’s about functioning more efficiently, in body, mind, spirit.
And for most people, the outward results of that are weight loss, more energy and overall better health.
As I tell people, I will never teach something I’m not willing to do myself.
So as DeAnna is giving the methods as far as changing eating and nutrition habits, I’m right in there with the rest of the class.
A funny thing happened while I was doing this…
I lost nine pounds in three weeks.
Now I wasn’t deliberately trying to lose weight. I just plugged into what the two of us are teaching as far as nutrition, fitness and (most importantly) the right mindset and emotional state to make profound, long lasting changes to our bodies.
And BOOM…nine pounds down.
Which is cool.
Here’s the coolest part, at least for what’s important to me…
I’ve been exercising pretty intensely for years. On upper body day, my second exercise is a set of pull ups.
Normally I do 16 or 17. I’m not saying that to boast, especially since many can do more than that. It’s just what I do.
At least until recently.
Because last week I went to the gym and started my set.
I’ve become used to muscle failure around number 17.
So I was taken by surprise when my body was willing to let me go to number 18.
And it was kinda sorta inviting me to do number 20.
I gathered up the rest of my oxygen and blasted it out.
I had to ask myself, “Did I suddenly get a lot stronger?”
No, I didn’t.
I did more pull ups because I was carrying less resistance.
Those nine pounds that weren’t around my midsection anymore were nine fewer pounds my arms and my shoulders, and my latissimus dorsi (back muscle) had to lift.
You see where this is going.
The less resistance you have to what you intend to do, the better you’ll do it.
Better. Stronger. Faster.
Yeah, that’s Six Million Dollar Man talk.
Or in the words of enlightened personal trainers: Functional Mobility.
Being able to do the stuff that’s important to you; not just lifting crazy amounts of weight that’ll probably just get you injured sooner or later.
More muscle fiber working for you and less fat = better results.
And of course you see the other places this goes.
The less fear, doubt and negative energy you have when approaching people, the more efficient you’ll be in getting what you want.
Because those things are the equivalent of unhealthy fat, sitting on your belly, making it harder to function the way you’re supposed to.
More strong healthy muscle of optimism, play, adventure, kindness, bravery, love….
Better career path.
Better business results.
Even better health.
Addition by subtraction.
What have you gotten rid of, or at least have less of that held you back from the results you want?
What are you still looking to get rid of? What will happen when you finally lose it?
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Stay with this…it starts out about weight loss, but it’s quickly going to reaching whatever goal you set for yourself…
“Which is easier, losing weight or inches?”
Jeez…how many times do we want to try the same thing that keeps failing over and over again???
All kinds of amazing things happening there, along with the leftover habits of thinking “they” are better than you.
Look…I get that making change is hard. And that it’s easy to fall back into the usual defenses we have…
Quick fixes you know deep down will never work.
And the interesting thing is, some of those magic fixes really do work! But you have to be in the place to use them properly.
And do all the other stuff that’s necessary to succeed.
And be willing to stop putting lipstick on a pig.
And be willing to commit to being the person that is healthy and strong.
Not starving yourself for a few days so the scale budges.
Not walking on a treadmill at two miles an hour for six minutes and expect that to make the difference.
Not try and lift weights like you’re 18 years old again.
And not scrounge up enough money to pay your bills for one month and think that’ll fix your financial profile.
Stop asking about pounds and inches.
Stop asking about making $400.00 a month.
Definitely stop asking about ten million dollars. That’s a lottery ticket fantasy.
Start asking about becoming the person who finds change, works on change, and loves change.
Then you’ll get the answers you’re looking for.
And the people who are serious about taking the journey with you.
And the joy of the process, not just the relief of the results.
What have you committed to…to the point where your asking the hard questions and willing to throw down with the answers?
What are you not quite there about yet?
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I had just finished a challenging set of pull-ups on my Saturday work out.
I did, well…a lot of them. Didn’t think much of it because it’s what I do. It’s what I’ve been doing for years.
I took my usual 72 second break between sets. (Yeah, I’m kinda regimented that way.)
On my way to the water fountain I heard him…
Awesome Job, Brother.
It was that guy. He was around 18, and in elite physical shape for any age.
That’s him, at the top of this post. Not a stock photo. The real dude!
See, he represents the guy I permitted myself to feel inferior to you throughout my youth.
He’s the guy I felt was bullying me, judging me, taking my stuff.
Turns out he wasn’t doing any of that. It was 90% inside my own head.
And of course ten percent of it was real. It was a few people needing to feel bigger by making someone else feel smaller. That’s the human condition. I’ve done it. So have you. It’ll always be there.
The question is… How much do you want to be a slave to it?
How responsive do you want to be to needing approval from other people? To worrying about what they’ll think of you?
This very cool young man was complimenting me for banging out a whole bunch of pull up that most men my age just don’t do. I think he was also complimenting the fact that my form was perfect. Slow, full range of motion, proper breathing.
And then we did the fist bump!
See, I liberated myself from worrying about what the big guys stop years ago. Some would argue I am one of those big guys now.
I don’t see it. Or more accurately I do see myself as one of those big guys. In fact I know I am.
But that has nothing to do with comparisons to anyone else. That’s all me. My skills, my work ethic, my worthiness.
And yes, I’ve achieved some pretty cool results.
That’s available to everyone. Yes, you too.
So when one of the big guys, or cool guys, or beautiful people – whatever you want to call them – interact with me, it’s fun.
I feel like I belong with them. I am one of them.
I had been the whole time. Just took a while to put away the narrative I had that said I wasn’t good enough to be one.
(The Guru Code people know all about that!)
And I had to replace with with seeing myself as someone bigger than I had been living.
And for a while, getting away from blaming anyone for my position in life besides myself.
And then not blaming myself anymore…replacing anger with forgiveness and love…toward myself.
And freeing up the space to work my ass for what I wanted.
And also letting it come to me…gently and gracefully.
So that when someone looks up to me as a “Big Guy,” I can see the Big Guy in them as well…male or female.
And contribute a little to the process that lets their own Big Guy come out.
What have you let go of that was holding you back from becoming the Awesome Person that’s already inside you?
What are you still holding onto?
What’s your plan for getting rid of it?
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So…a few weeks ago we went on a cruise to Bermuda.
And like most other people, I was amazed at the bounty of food available. Good food, bad food and everything in between.
I think I put on a few pounds. Didn’t use the scale…just looked at my belly, where the excess is stored. Yeah, I’m blessed with a quick and easy gauge… When I put weight on it mostly goes right to my stomach.
Anyway, the cruise was great. It was all kinds of fun and relaxing. And also because it laid out some stark choices. In the spa there were people who were obviously into fitness. The usual exercisers, the usual people in amazing shape.
And there were lots of people who were fitness newbies, trying something out. Let the injuries commence!
And of course most of the people stayed away from the fitness area altogether. They feasted on the fried stuff, and gorgeous desserts.
And they laid on the deck chairs and soaked up the sun. Sedentary ruled the day.
Nothing wrong with any of that. It’s their money, it’s their cruise. Everyone makes their own choices.
That’s not to say I don’t respect the non-fit for trying something new. I do! And I honor them enough to want for them the best guidance and the sense of commitment that will allow them to get the benefits, and not wait another two years for their injuries and pride to heal.
There are lots of choices to be made. First one is the commitment.
Not for forever. Just for the three or seven or fourteen days you’re on the cruise.
Find a healthy section for food. There was a great one on the Celebrity Summit. Lots of fresh fruit and vegetables. Lean proteins. Whole grains (which may not be particularly great given what we’re learning about bread, but still better than white flour).
Manage your portions. Sure, you can usually go back as many times as you like. That’s fine. Just keep the portions sizes manageable.
Keep The Water Coming. The good news is that alcohol and soft drinks on cruises usually aren’t free. You have to buy a pretty expensive package to get them. If you have access, resist the temptation to drink everything in sight. Simple formula: for every soft drink (including sweetened ice tea), have double the amount of water. And regardless, drink at least eight 8 ounce servings each day. In the hot sun, you’ll want it anyway.
Walk the deck. Most of the ships have a walking track on the top deck. Walk it fast. Walk it’s slow but walk.
Take the stairs instead of the elevator. Down. Yes, and up. You’ll probably be using the steps pretty often, as the buffets are often near the top, and the staterooms are not.
Carry your own bags. It’s easy enough to let someone else do it for you. But do it yourself anyway.
Visit the spa. Get a massage. If you’re feeling adventurous, take a look at some of the more exotic body treatments, like wraps, or even acupuncture. Get reintroduced to your body in a fun, comfortable way.
Use the weights. Light ones are great. Heavy ones are also great, so long as you don’t injure yourself. You’re not trying to fix everything on one cruise. Resistance, resistance, resistance.
Those are some of the things you can do on a cruise. And there are lots of ways to lose weight when you’re on dry land. CLICK HERE to take a look at the iii Method!