Any fool can be wrong. So can any wise person. And anyone in between.
We all are. It’ll be sandwiched between doing lots of great, right, correct stuff.
And it won’t take away from our beautiful, loving Divine nature.
I have elevated being wrong to an art form!
That’s true in two different ways.
I’ve found new, exciting and creative ways to be wrong.
And I’ve found new and exciting ways to fix and grow from it.
Here’s something I put on my Facebook wall on Saturday…
Every new situation is one of three things…
1. An opportunity to celebrate great stuff in our lives…that enriches us.
2. An opportunity to hang onto old ways of thinking, feeling and doing things…that take us further away from our beautiful essence.
3. An opportunity to set aside past habits of defensiveness, fear, anger…and move into trust in ourselves, courage, assertiveness and unconditional love.
About 12 years ago, when I first got my start in online publishing I wrote a piece called “The Art Of Being Wrong.” My kids were little and as a young husband, dad and counselor, I made the mistakes of a younger man. It was important to role model humility and growth…so they could learn and I could do better.
Since then, I’ve been wrong tens of thousands of times.
Some were big, some were little. The more skin we have in the game…the more we throw down with a person, or lifestyle, or anything, the more wrong choices we’re going to make.
(And by the way…we’re going to make a hell of a lot of right choices along the way as well.)
My ego permitted fast recognition of some, not as fast as others.
My defense mechanisms held onto many of those wrongs for a painfully long time. No doubt still holding onto some.
More and more, particularly in looking at the magnificent people who are coming into my world, I see a desperate need for some to hang onto the mental and emotional structures that protect us from change.
I get it. Been there, done that.
Fairly recently, I wrote a post about the way we do things. The premise was how we do one thing doesn’t have to be the way we do everything. It was soundly done, but missed important points about structural integrity. If we have a glaring defect, it will compensate in some other way. That’s true for our physical bodies as well as our mental, emotional and spiritual aspects.
And truth be told, there was elevated emotions around the writing of it.
I got called out for it, in a strong way.
Two choices: I could choose defensiveness or opening and softening.
Unlike the past when I would dig my heels in, I chose Door Number Two.
Because I was wrong.
And past the emotion of that moment, I could see it.
And more importantly, it allowed me to grow, and spread that energy to those who put their trust in me as a counselor, coach and trainer…not to mention as a husband, father and friend.
Being wrong is a critical part of being human. Not a tragic part. There’s no sense in calling anything in our essence tragic. If we’re here, it’s to learn and grow.
And there’s no growth without screwing up.
Big. And small.
Yeah…a lot of stuff.
So let’s bring this back to you…
What “wrongs” are you holding onto that have held you back from living fully and in integrity?
(And having fun…since that’s pretty darned important?)
What’s the worst thing that’ll happen if you allow yourself to be wrong?
If you expose your fear, your greed, your anger, your errors in thought? Your misjudgments of others?
And do you realize you’re actually living in a world that wants you to be happy, be healthy and has lots of second chances built into it?
Well….how about it?
We don’t care about the wrongs, other than how they’ve affected others in your life. And you have the power to apologize and make them right. And others have the power to forgive.
What have you done to address your mistakes and create a better life?
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