When I opened Facebook the other day I saw a profound status from Tony Rush, he of Empower Network fame and a frequent dropper of Friday Truth Bombs. It went like this…
There is a difference in “rudeness” and “candor”.
I had a prospect today tell me that I was “rude and unprofessional”.
What had I done to to deserve such a comment?
Simple: this person had said, “Show me how to make money from home and I will do what you tell me” . . . .
. . . and then completely ignored everything I instructed them to do.
And then I committed the Unpardonable Sin: I pointed out the fact that they were saying one thing and doing another.
Hell hath no fury like that of a person who has their lack of integrity pointed out by someone else.
“You’re rude and unprofessional,” they said.
No. I’m HONEST. I’m the guy who will tell you you’re screwing up when you’re screwing up.
If you tell me that you want to make $250,000 per year. . . guess what? I’m going to take you at your word and I’m going to EXPECT YOU TO ACT LIKE someone who is serious about making $250,000 per year.
And if your level of commitment/action is dramatically LESS than that, I have no qualms pointing it out.
Of course, this is not what most people are accustomed to.
Most people are accustomed to people ignoring their lack of integrity.
Most people are accustomed to people letting them play small.
Most people are accustomed to people buying their BS excuses.
Most people are accustomed to people letting them wallow in mediocrity.
That’s not me.
And, it’s ESPECIALLY not me if you told me that you wanted me to show you how to get from where you are to where you want to be.
Life is not a dress rehearsal.
This is it. You’d better make it count.
Fifteen years ago when we entered the home biz industry our mentor was earning just under a million dollars a year. So credibility wasn’t an issue.
I remember saying, “tell me what to do and I’ll do it.”
And of course we know it’s not about DOING.
It’s about a thought process.
So when he told me to read and listen to as much Jim Rohn as I could I thought he was trying to put me off, which of course he wasn’t. There was nothing I could “do” that would turn me into the kind of earner I said I wanted to be.
I had to take on a whole new thought process around money, abundance, communications, interpersonal relationships, self respect….all of it. And Jim Rohn was his teacher of choice on those subjects.
I don’t know exactly how the rest of Tony’s conversation went, but I imagine he said something similar.
If someone is asking what to “do” it’s a warning signal they aren’t equipped to BECOME the person who acquires wealth.
Faced with that reality, it’s easier to turn the responsibility outward than the accountability inward. We’ve all done it, and still do to the point of our own development. Otherwise we’d all be financially independent.
Another Jim Rohn quote: “Success isn’t something you pursue. It’s something you attract.”
Have you ever been told by a mentor to do something you didn’t understand? Did you trust them enough to follow through, even if you didn’t get it? Did your fear, or doubt or ego get in the way?
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