There are a few reasons why people hate coaches.
They charge too much. Or they don’t deliver what they say they will.
I think there is one main reason was why people hate coaches. And that’s too bad, because coaching can really be effective.
I was messaging with a friend who mentioned he had an “online coach” who said a possible reason for his lack of confidence was…
Elevated estrogen levels.
I asked if this coach was a doctor or had seen blood work that might show something that suggested a hormone imbalance. The answer: “No, but he’s really powerful and smart, like you.”
If you’re going to present yourself as a professional, you have to behave like one. It’s one thing to make mistakes as part of your regular practice. Everyone does that. It’s another to talk out of your ass about stuff you aren’t qualified to talk about.
This is why people hate “coaches.”
If you’re a coach, don’t pretend to know what you don’t know.
And don’t say things to people that move them away from trusting their own ability to fix their lives.
Your charge is to empower other people. Not to make people dependent on your help. And not to make yourself feel more important by having a cult following.
And by the way, I completely believe in counseling and coaching as a profession. I’ve been in both for all of the 21st century. When done right, coaching can help someone unravel the tough parts of their life and succeed in ways they never have before.
If you’re looking for a coach, find someone who knows how to listen.
Find someone who asks questions and doesn’t look for a “one size fits all” answer.
Find someone who doesn’t tell you they’ll magically fix all your problems.
Find someone who trusts in your ability to be successful, prosperous and independent.