“Somebody can walk into this room and say your life is on fire. It’s all over the evening news. All about the fire in your life on the evening news.”
Do you know those lyrics?
They’re from a song called Crazy Love,Part 2, from Paul Simon’s album, Graceland…which by the way is one of the five best rock and roll albums of all time.
Youtube the song if you like. If you don’t know the album and you start listening, I’ll see you in about a week, when you come up for air.
It’s that good.
I heard Crazy Love, Part 2 on the radio yesterday, and played it again this morning. The lyrics grabbed me….hard.
I’ve had times where I felt like my life was on fire. We all have.
Out of control. Everything you’ve known is burning up. And you have no freakin’ idea what will be left, if anything when the fire finally goes out.
And in the 21st century, it becomes really easy for everyone to watch the flames of your life…if you put it out there publicly.
Look, we all have things that happen to us. There’s no such thing as not having them. You’ll stop the moment you’re looking at grass from the roots up. Know what I mean?
And some people have them worse than others. The person who starts out life with absent or abusive parents, or in poverty, or with a major disease; they have a different deal than someone who is healthy, loved and taken care of.
Or anything in between.
And anyone can screw up a good situation, or fix a broken one.
I try never to judge someone’s unhappiness. They have enough problems without my condemnation.
And I walk out of rooms when people are gossiping about someone else’s misery, whether I know that person or not.
So let’s get to it …
There are two main differences between someone who is successful and someone who is always in a bad place…
1. At their core, the successful person doesn’t equate their struggles with their self-worth. You can experience misery and not BE miserable.
2. The unhappy person usually lets everyone watch their life catch fire. It’s all over social media, and in most of the conversations they have. They lead with their mess.
The happy person deals with their mess privately and quietly.
They don’t necessarily keep it to themselves.
But they share with a “sacred circle” of people who support them and who see them as the magnificent beings they are, even when they don’t see it themselves.
And if they have a conflict with one person, it stays with that one person. They don’t invite others to the drama.
And if you think that ends in high school, take a look around.
Is your life on fire?
Or maybe a little corner of it?
I get it.
Look at the two differences again.
Do the things the successful person does, so you can have the kind of life the successful person has.
And if you want to attract people, influence people, sell to people, get them to join you in your projects…
Be the person whose life isn’t’ on fire. At least not on the Evening News.